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  • Oct 15, 2009, 06:24 PM
    fbisema
    Girlfriend issues :
    My girlfriend has been under a lot of stress lately, family and university issues and stress, she told me recently that she doesn't feel the same way nymore, but still wants to be with me, saying that just give me abit of space until I finnish university, so roughly a month, I handled it badly and the next day I broke up with her, and after nearly a week going by I begin to regret it a lot, I spoke to her, and she said she will think about 'us' when uni is finnished and that , but don't take it as a difinite yes that we will get back together.

    I think she must have some feelings for her to agree to that at least, but I'm giving her space and that, but it will be a hard month I think but thing is, next week I'm going to a friends party and she is also going, how should I act? Do you think there is a chance that she will come back to me? If she really didn't like me nymore, I think she would not of even considered the chance of giving it a month to pull her thoughts together, arghh, its killing me cause I really care about her, and the reason why I broke up with her, cause I love her and don't want her to be unhappy but now I realized it was a mistake... what to do now?
  • Oct 15, 2009, 06:31 PM
    friend4u178

    Give her the space she asked for and when you see her just act cordial and with dignity , she will see you in a much better light then , then if it's meant to be she'll come back.

    If you try to contact her or start to act like a little puppy wanting her back that'll just push her away.
  • Oct 15, 2009, 06:37 PM
    Hollisterbaybee
    Give her the space she asked for give her time and if it's meant to be she will come bak. Act normal and don't bug her!
  • Oct 15, 2009, 06:38 PM
    paxe

    You can't force her to anything right now, and it does seem it's pretty over. You need to move on and if she wants to come back she will, but you should not hope for it. She probably won't come back to you as she probably wants more time to herself and to find someone else.
  • Oct 15, 2009, 07:05 PM
    fbisema

    YEP you are all prob right, ill just give her the time and space and at the party just keep my dignity and no begging or stuff like that - And out of all the probable possibilities that could happen its just as likely that she will come back to me, and just as likely that she won't - only time will tell and esp my actions now will play an important role on her choice i.e. if I act desperate now it will reflect badly, but if I keep my distance giver her space and keep my cool it will have a more positive result - cheers guys
  • Oct 15, 2009, 07:12 PM
    friend4u178
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by fbisema View Post
    YEP you are all prob right, ill just give her the time and space and at the party just keep my dignity and no begging or stuff like that - And out of all the probable possibilities that could happen its just as likely that she will come back to me, and just as likely that she wont - only time will tell and esp my actions now will play an important role on her choice i.e. if i act desperate now it will reflect badly, but if i keep my distance giver her space and keep my cool it will have a more positive result - cheers guys

    There you go... spot on!!


    I wish more understood it so quick , well done .
  • Oct 15, 2009, 07:25 PM
    fbisema
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by friend4u178 View Post
    There you go........................spot on !!!


    I wish more understood it so quick , well done .


    Yep, well what can I do? True love means freedom and by the time the month is over, and we talk, I will respect her decision whatever it is, because I love her :)

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