Lazy, Insecure, Jealous, Stoner Boyfriend
My partner and I have been together since 2004 when were both 18. We are now 24, and 2kids later, things haven't progressed at all.
When I first fell pregnant, I expected my man to get off his bum and find a job, I didn't care what he did just as long as he could support me and the new baby.
Well that baby is now four years old, and my man still hasn't had a job. At all. I told him that I was offered a job recently, his reply? "Why do u wanna work? So you can screw all the guys at work?" Pathetic? Yes. So what the heck is the solution?
Im forever on his case about helping me around the home etc etc. 2 toddler boys tearing through the house everyday is a mission- ask any parent. But when I have to pay the bills using the pittiful amounts of money I have ($200 p/w) plus running around after the boys, cleaning the house, cooking meals, doing dishes etc etc really takes its toll on me. I become grumpy, easily frustrated and angry (at my man). He lounges around, smokes his dope, pretty much watching me do EVERYTHING. He sulks when I ask him to help out, he sulks when I ask him for money to help cover some expenses, he sulks when I ask him to bathe the boys, he packs tantrums when I want to go and see a friend, but then its all right if he can take off for hours on end with his cronies? That is not on!
I wouldn't mind being the perfect little housewife if my man went to work everyday like any normal family man. But the truth is, its like he's another child of mine ! We fight more than we make love, he smokes more dope than Bob Marley & its driving me insane!
What the heck can I do to resolve this really irritating issue? All I ever wanted was a stable home for my children, where parents work together as a team without resulting into a huge fight. I really love this guy, but I'm slowly beginning to think I might as well do it on my own- at least I know it would get done, and properly done.
Thanks 4 reading my raving rants lol.