Hey everyone I really need some advance with my relationship and it needs to be impartial. I've been with my boyfriend for over 18 months and over the last two months or so he's told me that he's had naked pictures sent to him off another girl, he's kissed someone whilst we've been together and also that he went out with another girl yesterday for coffee after she asked him out after a lecture.
I forgave him the first two occasions but this last one is pushing me over the edge. I love my boyfriend to bits I wanted to marry him, but after his latest revelation although I still love him I'm fed up of being hurt. I don't know if I am being irrational or not by feeling fustrated and upset. He's gone so far as to call me abnormal and I should talk to him whenever I get my head straight. I don't want to lose him but I'm so down all the time its not fair.
I would never do anything to hurt him and I've been taken the piss out of, I feel as though I'm a walk over. Do I need to dump him and make a fresh new start? I'm so confused and hurt I don't want to do something I'm going to regret

Your take on the intensity of the relationship sounds very different from his, which doesn't necessarily make either of you wrong. You sound more seriously involved than he is. I wondered if he claims to love you? Your post didn't say. For me, when the person who claims to love us isn't honoring us by either modifying behaviors or talking about what went wrong until a compromise can be reached, then the answer is plain enough-- its not a suitable match. Communication is the key here and if you can't talk, then leaving may be the only option.

As val said, comunication is the key!
Talk to him, address the problem and how its making you feeling, if he doesn't understand and respect your feelings, then its time for you to make a decission.

I personally would have got hurt to but 2 of those incidents. Mainly because I know I wouldn't do such a thing myself.

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Originally Posted by catherine7757

hey everyone i really need some advance with my relationship and it needs to be impartial. ive been with my boyfriend for over 18 months and over the last two months or so hes told me that hes had naked pictures sent to him off another girl, hes kissed someone whilst weve been together and also that he went out with another girl yesterday for coffee after she asked him out after a lecture.
i forgave him the first two occasions but this last one is pushing me over the edge. i love my boyfriend to bits i wanted to marry him, but after his latest revelation although i still love him im fed up of being hurt. i dont know if i am being irrational or not by feeling fustrated and upset. hes gone so far as to call me abnormal and i should talk to him whenever i get my head straight. i dont want to lose him but im so down all the time its not fair.
i would never do anything to hurt him and ive been taken the piss out of, i feel as though im a walk over. do i need to dump him and make a fresh new start? im so confused and hurt i dont want to do something im going to regret

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Your man must be a cutie for all these dogs to want him. Unless, he's the dog who's making the moves on these pretty ladies. Temptation is out there, and do you trust him enough not to pursue any of these advancements? Communication and trust is the key! If you don't have this, then this relationship is not worth saving. Don't let it bring you down! Spend a lot of time with your girlfriends... and guy friends. Let him see that you're also wanted by other men (look good at all times) so that he knows he could lose you at any time if he doesn't get with the program! Tell him to put himself in your shoes... how would he feel if guys were jocking you after class and you said yes to spending time with them. Hope this helps! Be strong girl!