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  • Oct 9, 2009, 04:15 PM
    amy-star-me
    Does he hate me?
    :confused:hey,
    Basically my boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly 2 years now.. so we're pretty good.. a few months back he went really weird with me.. like I don't know why.. he would ignore me and stuff and like be really short with me I would ask him about it and he would say that its just me not talking to him. But that all ended and we were good again.

    But now all of a sudden I'm constantly like worrying about losing him.. like if he went back to the way he was before.. I no you're probably thinking why am I with him.. well I love him too much he's like a shy guy he's not had any experience with girls before me. And he would never cheat on me.. trust me.
    And I just don't get to spend much time with him lately because of all his coursework and stuff he's just gone into sixth form and I'm in college now. So he's pretty busy and when I ask him to meet he normally says don't know.. and he don't mean it in a mean way.. :/ but I'm always worrying and constantly obsessed with knowing what he's doing and stuff like that.am I been weird and does he hate me:/.. I'm a worrier and I get paranoid really easily.. :confused: but I no its not that bad as it sounds but Ive cried over it and yeah I just want to no what to do.. :o
  • Oct 9, 2009, 04:26 PM
    TrueFaith

    ---obsessed with knowing what he's doing and stuff like ---


    My dear.. we have all been there :) with our first relationships or the ones that really matter.. at least.

    My best advice for you.. Stop over thinking things.
    And give him space.
    Let him call you up and ask how you are doing
    Let him ask you out for dinner or something like that.

    The kid just seems to be bogged down with school work, and it happens.

    So Give him space don't call him for a few days go out.. have fun.. you don't need him in your life to make you feel better.
    You can do that by yourself.
    And if he rings up. Say I've been really busy how are you.

    Let him know it's not just a one way street. Because it seems to me like you do all the work.. all the asking.. all the questions

    So yeah back off him a bit.. :)
    See what happens

    If you are always thinking about him and obsessed with his every action. And scared that he will be mean to you
    2 things will happen

    1. You will live a life in fear, and not wanting to even step out of place for fear of him leaving.
    -Pathetic- -controlling- -relationship-

    2- You will push him away
    -needy--controlling- -relationship-

    All the best
  • Oct 9, 2009, 08:11 PM
    talaniman

    Relax, and give him the time, and space he needs to handle his business. You both should be putting a lot of time to succeed at your studies, and still have room for each other, and without each other sometimes.

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