Hi,
Many years ago I ended a friendship with a woman which had been very destructive for years. Weīve been friends since high school, so it was not easy. The reason I ended it was mainly that this woman drank heavily and was abusive in many ways. Her behaviour was erratic and her anger scared me.
I told her more than ten years ago I didnīt want to continue this friendship. That caused her to harrass me every single day, call my other friends and relatives and basically stalk me from weeks on end. I decided then to take her calls, just speak about different matters and then pretended to be busy. She got the message after a few calls like that.
She moved away with her husband and family and is now moving back here. I am good friends with her sister and would hate to lose her friendship. My old friend is acting up again and pretends she doesnīt understand why I donīt talk to her. She keeps pestering her sister who keeps asking me why I wonīt speak to her, although I told her some time ago I would never speak to her again and that the friendship was and is over.
Now the sister sent me an e-mail, telling me she can only meet me in hiding, because otherwise her sister (my old friend) would go nuts.
I feel helpless at the moment. It took such a long time to shake her out of my life and I would prefer not to go through it again.
Hope to hear from some advice.