Originally Posted by capy
thanks everyone arround the world for the reply to a perfectly normal human dilemma.
its funny but only a small amount of infomation can lead to being verry misjudged.
its valuable to read your opinions. as an update, no one values my 10 year relationship more than i do. My current partner does now know about it, and you know what shes ok about it. Have you ever been so drawn to someone that its hard to turn away. I dont mean in a bloke way but just about wanting to look after someone as much as you could... i said. I knew you always had a soft spot for her, she's nice.
Some times you just meet some one who has such an impact on you, I have no intentions to throw a way this fantastic partner i have. I know what no means, i think its just interesting how much you can care for someone else other than the person you will be with untill you die.
I said all this stuff to both of them knowing it would break an intolerable internal pain, and you know what i have 2 better freindships because of it. I knew i would be rejected but i did it anyway. i needed to reset things. I looked a fool and yesterday someone ive never met in austrailia thinks i'm a low life because of what i said, this is as far from the truth as it can get. you were all right because 10 years is a wow! is it a flaw in people to love some one else, i think not, its the life changing encounters with people that makes you as a consiquence better and stronger because of it while i still miss this person i know NO is as sraight as it gets, but i think i have a good friend.