My parents, mainly my dad. I need some insight!
Okay.. bear with me this may be long.
I'm 19 years old, female, and I currently live with my both my parents (who have been married for 30 years) I have a boyfriend that is 17 (don't say I'm robbing the cradle because it's legal in FL) We've been together for 2 years. I also have a best friend that is a GAY guy, he has a boyfriend for 3 years. I DO NOT smoke, drink, do weed, drugs, anything of that nature. I've graduated from high school last year and I'm currently attending community college and working towards an AA degree. I don't have a job, but I do draw for people online for money if I want or need it. I mainly don't have a job because I don't NEED one and I've tried to get one but no one will hire an inexperienced 19 year old girl. Okay so I'm your typical lazy teenager I suppose who hates doing chores, but I do some. I'm lazy about my school work, but I make barely passing grades. I'm never out past 12:00 AM only maybe once a month to get a soda or something with my friend.. but even then we are home by 1:00 AM.
Anyway, my dilemma is that I've been having 'sleepovers' with my one GIRL best friends since I was in Elementary, since she has moved to Okeechobee (an hour and a half away from me) and she has a job and she's really busy I never get to see her much anymore.. So I have my other guy that is gay best friend spend the night. He's been spending the night numerous times at my house for the past 4 years (sometimes even with his boyfriend) Just this past year my parents (especially my dad) have been getting on to me about Ricky (my guy friend) is staying over too much, he's influencing me badly, he's a deadbeat.. etc. He doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs at all either. But he didn't graduate from high school and isn't going to college and doesn't have a job. Yes he's a deadbeat but so? Anyway, Ricky used to come over and stay for nights in a row.. just this past year and now my parents restricted it to only 2 nights a week. Which I think is fair. But now they are limiting our bedtime to 12 AM. Where that's when we have the most fun, talking, hanging out, playing video games together. We aren't even loud. And yet they use the excuse, "It's our house and we don't want anyone staying up past 12 AM it's just stupid!) We've had this debate several times. So now if we are up at 3 AM or whatever and my dad gets up and comes to my room (he's a really light sleeper) then he gets bent out of shape and yells. That's a huge thing I don't get. If we aren't bothering you at night then why the hell does it matter when we go to bed?
That's one dilemma that's driving me insane. They NEVER complain about my boyfriend and me staying up late, or my best girl friend and me doing the same. They only complain about Ricky. And I hate it... I don't understand.
Another problem is me and my boyfriend have been monogamous our whole relationship and I've only had sex with HIM. I was a virgin when we did it, too. I've never had sex with anyone else. I used to be on Birth Control for a year but then I decided that since I only have intercourse with him and I don't enjoy it and BC made me gain a lot of water weight then I decided to go off it just 2 months ago. Okay so the other week I made a STUPID mistake mind you, yes I know. And we had intercourse, though he didn't inside me.. I'm not that stupid and then me being a health, paranoid freak thought I was going to get pregnant. So I was worrying and since me and my mom are close I told her about it and she got all mad. Okay.. so I dropped the subject, stopped worrying about it until last night when my boyfriend bought me a pregnancy test, I wasn't pregnant and I also started my period yesterday. Anyway, my views on abortion is TOTALLY different than my parents' views and they get really angry when I just say I can take a pill and that I have the money to afford it if I do get pregnant. Now of course I'm not going to go around anymore and have sex without protection now.. I've learned my lesson, plus we got condoms. I'm not saying I'm going to go and then if I get pregnant I can just get an abortion and it's all good. No! I would only do this once! I'd learn my lesson of course and not mess around at ALL with this kind of thing.
So today he started yelling at me and cursing at me telling me I just go over to pick up my boyfriend to and that's all we do. We don't do that, we usually just hang out in my room, play games, talk, cuddle, etc. Sex isn't a big issue in our relationship. But he seemed to get all bent out of shape over me having a different view on abortion than he does. I hate it. It's my body, my life. He's not paying for it! Then he has the nerve to say I have no life and that I'm going to drop out of college and never get a job. I think I'm a pretty good kid, now I know all of you don't know me but seriously.. So I start crying and it just gets worse, he continues to rage on me and tell me that I go out late at night and don't tell him where I'm going, when I do tell him! He basically calls me a slut and how worthless I am. Also he doesn't want me to drive my moms car to pick up my friend (Ricky) again.. if it was someone else it would be FINE. He uses the excuse that it's wear and tear on the car, it's old, he doesn't want anymore mileage on it. When I just gave him 20 bucks for gas and their 'horrid' time with Ricky over.. Usually he drives over here but his insurance ran out on his car and he can't drive it anymore until he pays for it again.. he's going through a lot right now too.
I just I don't know, am I being unreasonable? :(