My ex and I have been trying to be friends (I know it's wrong) but she really trusts me, etc. Idk. But we broke up a month ago, and we were going out for 9 months, and she already has a new boyfriend! I snapped. Told her I didn't want to be friends with her, and that she screwed me over, I haven't talked to her since, and I really have no intention to. But do you think she's going to try to talk to me?

If she has a new boyfriend, her contacting you is very slim. Even so, don't worry about keeping in contact with her and do NC for your sake.

You might become friends, but that's not until later. Only NC can tell you when that is.

Why does it matter if you have no intentions of talking to her again?

If you still want her back then being friends right now is a really bad idea for you.

She has a new BF so do you really want to be around the 2 of them right now , too painful if you ask me.

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Is it the same girl?

You need to stop contact and spend some time recovering from this break up. Talking to her will just give you false hope and add more confusion. Back off so that you can heal and gain some perspective from this experience.

If I had to put money on it, I would say that she will one day contact you. But when that day comes what will you do?

Will you:

A) Act like a little puppy and start wagging your tail and urinating all over the ground

Or

B) Act like a man and tell her to get lost because she screwed you over, so to he-- with her.

You said that you don't want to talk to her ever again, yet you are wondering if she will ever talk to you? This makes no sense. I think you WANT her to contact you because you want to take option A. The problem with this choice is that you wind up looking like a little wuss in her eyes and she will walk all over you because she can.

She has a new man. This means you need to also become a new man. Stop wondering about her and start getting with other girls, working out, flying kites, playing laser tag, or whatever makes you forget about her and lets you get on with your life. If you can't see that you are being abused and taken advantage of by this girl then hopefully this post helps to open your eyes to the fact that she is having her cake and eating it too (BTW, the cake is in her new bf's pants).

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by itried

flying kites, playing laser tag, or whatever makes you forget about her and lets you get on with your life....she is having her cake and eating it too (BTW, the cake is in her new bf's pants).

Good luck.

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Oh god I was literally laughing out loud