I am a little torn here.
My duaghter has a 'friend' at school. She is not a nice little girl. I know its not the girls fault, her mother is the one who raised her this way, and I know that to be true because her mother and I are... well... I wouldn't consider her a friend. But we are on speaking terms to say the least.
Onto the issue...
This little girl is mean to my duaghter. She doesn't hit her or name call. But she will one day say 'YOUR NOT MY FRIEND" and break my daughters heart. And then the next day, act like nothing happened. And her mother won't talk to me about it because when I aproach the subject even when the girls are not present she says 'in our home, what's done is done we don't dwell on things' and I'm thinking to myself how is a child going to learn anything if it isn't discussed??
I am torn because a part of me, what's to advocate for her. Not let them be friends and have the constant back and fourth of her saying my duaghter is not her friend, and then going right back to being friends the next day. And my duaghter goes right back to her.
But on the other hand. I DO want her to learn how to manage her friends her self. Be her OWN advocate. Choose for HERSELF if she should be friends with a person like that or not.
If the little girl was violent, hitting spitting name calling, etc. there would be no issue, then would NOT be friends until the girls mother dealt with the problem.
But its just a case of her being mean, and my daughter getting her heart broken, and then going right back to her.
What do I do? Should I step in? Or let them work it out for themselves/