Hi everyone,
This is my first post here and I would appreciate some insight. My husband and I have been together for close to 14 years. For the most part we have a wonderful healthy and loving relationship. All except for one point. His female friend. They started as co-workers sharing an office. Then last year they along with a large amount of others from their jobs were let go. After that they continued to hang out together outside of work. I still have my job so I go to work M-F 8-5.
He started telling me he was going to the movies with her which would always end up with a deink or two at the bar and he'd always be home by the time I was home. I admit this made me extremely uncomfortable and I discussed it with him and how it made me feel. He dismissed my feelings and just said we needed to find a way to make this work because she was his friend. This made me feel like I was overreacting and being a jealous wife and it caused a huge riff inour relationship. We worked it out as far as me accepting that this was important to him. He started inviting me out with them but I admit I find her incredibly annoying. I just do not care for this woman and I really tried befriending her.
As time went on vacations popped up where she'd invite me and my husband places with her and her other friend who was a male. Now I feel like every time we do anything she always gets an invite and I feel she is bleeding into every aspect of my life. This straw that broke the camels back for me was this. After many years of being dissastisfied with my career we decided it was best I go back to school. So I still have my full time job, now I go to school part time on evenings and weekends. I am not free to go on weekend trips anymore. The other day my husband informed me he wanted to take her home to his parents house for a weekend festival that occurs every October. It is one of my favorite things to do and since I have school I can't go. I told him that I felt this was extremely unappapropriate and that in no way shape or form would I ever be OK with that. He feels I am overreacting because she is no different then a male friend. Am I being unreasonable? I feel I have a right to set a boundary that my husband should never go away on a weekend trip with another woman regardless of where they stay or that she may be "just a friend". I need insight. Now he is extremely angry at me and feels I am being untrusting and unreasonable.
Please help.