I don't know why, but recently I just feel absolutely no desire to have sex. (recently as in the past couple of months)

I have, but I'm not really satisfied by it. Also, I can't STAND seeing sex in movies, it doesn't arouse me, it grosses me out.

I used to be fine about it, and I used to want sex from my boyfriend. It's not like he doesn't do a good job, it's just that I don't WANT to.

Maybe it's just stress or something, I don't know what, but I don't want to perform sex, or have it performed on me. ANY sex.
Last weekend he tried to use his hands but I didn't let him.

WHY has this changed?

How old are you? Any medications, injuries, aches and pains? What about changes - have any changes happened lately? You mentioned stress - what stress has been happening? Finally, how is the relationhsip with your BF - has anything altered or changed?

I'm 19. Healthy, no injuries or medications. My relationship with my boyfriend is pretty good. Nothing unusual, just normal relationship bickering. Stress mostly from school and being absolutely broke.
I don't know why I'd be completely turned off from sex though.

How are your periods?

Sometimes changes in hormones can affect our response to sex. As an example, many pregnant or menopausal women get grossed out by sex and their libido diminishes. It is the hormones changing. I'm not suggesting you're pregnant or menopausal, but your hormone levels could be unbalanced.

The thyroid gland also impacts on the hormones - so imbalances there can affect hormone levels.

Insulin levels can also affect libido.

If there are no prevailing emotional or psychological factors, perhaps a full physical check up with blood tests might reveal something?

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How are your periods?

Sometimes changes in hormones can affect our response to sex. As an example, many pregnant or menopausal women get grossed out by sex and their libido diminishes. It is the hormones changing. I'm not suggesting you're pregnant or menopausal, but your hormone levels could be unbalanced.

The thyroid gland also impacts on the hormones - so imbalances there can affect hormone levels.

Insulin levels can also affect libido.

If there are no prevailing emotional or psychological factors, perhaps a full physical check up with blood tests might reveal something?

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My periods appear to be fine. I get one every month, they've always been kind of screwy though. Such as one week it'll be really light, and another it will be heavier and longer than "normal" But it appears around the same time every month.

Would a vitamin deficiency effect my hormone levels? I think I'm anemic because I'm almost always cold and I don't get enough nutrients.I take a vitamin B complex sometimes though and I feel warmer and more comfortable when I do, but it doesn't change my mood about sex.
And when I watched a movie today there was a sex scene and I was completely disgusted by it, and it wasn't even graphic. Just the thought turns me off completely.

Well, as soon as I can coem up with some sort of payment, I can't do that unfortunately.

I don't know if maybe it's psychological even?
It's too soon to really tell I think.

I noticed you didn't say happy, "ohsohappy"

Money can't buy happiness, but the lack of it can cause a lot of stress in our lives. With the money issues , and school, can very well cause physical problems.

The brain is our largest sex organ.

I hope things get better for you soon . I wish I could give you some real cash, but here:

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GOD bless.

Edit:
Poll: Money worries world's greatest cause of stress - CNN.com

Time to see you doctor... explain this all to him and they can run tests to look for medical issues that can be treated. See that they have to say at that point. You need to eliminate physical issues before you can assume it's a mental one.

I agree that physical issues need to be ruled out.

I will add that it probably isn't one cause but several. Stress, seasonal changes, concern over not feeling sexual, maybe feeling like you are in a rut, etc. all rolled into one big symptom.

Stressing over it will only make it worse.

I'll try to schedule an appointment as soon as I can. Like I said, money;s a HUGE issue. Especially since I just got laid off. But I had that interview so hopefully things work out and I can get it checked soon.

I agree with the others that a complete physical is in order. Lots of things can affect libido: stress, depression, anxiety, fatigue, conflict with the other, medical conditions especially hormonal disorders or things that cause pain and fatigue.

I also think that libido is not contsant throughout your life. There are times when it will be high and times when it will be low. Your case sounds quite extreme though and that's why you need to see a doctor.

You say you are grossed out by sex... Why is this? Has it always been something that you have felt at the back of your mind or is this something very new. Try and think about this.

I also think you need to be open and honest with your partner about this. He will be feeling very insecure and will be questioning himself and thinking it is something he has done. Be honest with him and reassure him that you are worried about this and that it is not yhis fault (although I don't know if there are issues with him too?) and that you are trying to sort this out and you need him to be understanding. I am sure he will be understanding if he is a good guy...

By thye way I really like your sock location thing it made me laugh! :-)

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I agree with the others that a complete physical is in order. Lots of things can affect libido: stress, depression, anxiety, fatigue, conflict with the other, medical conditions especially hormonal disorders or things that cause pain and fatigue.

I also think that libido is not contsant throughout your life. There are times when it will be high and times when it will be low. Your case sounds quite extreme though and thats why you need to see a doctor.

You say you are grossed out by sex..... Why is this? Has it always been something that you have felt at the back of your mind or is this something very new. try and think about this.

I also think you need to be open and honest with your partner about this. he will be feeling very insecure and will be questioning himself and thinking it is something he has done. Be honest with him and reassure him that you are worried about this and that it is not yhis fault (although I dont know if there are issues with him too?) and that you are trying to sort this out and you need him to be understanding. I am sure he will be understanding if he is a good guy....

By thye way I really like your sock location thing it made me laugh! :-)

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No everything with my guy is good, I don't want to make him insecure.
This whole thing is pretty new to me. So I have no idea. That's why I'm so confused about it, because I've never straight up thought sex was gross. I eman, there's times when I've not wanted it, that's normal. But I don't think being grossed out by it is okay. Like I said, the sex scene in the movie I watched wasn't even graphic and it was SO hard to watch. I think THAT might be coming along with my views on seeing other people have sex, I.e. Porn. I've never agreed with it.
I don't know it's just weird.

I think that I should add that my boyfriend and I are very affectionate when we're together. I have no problem giving him kisses or cuddling with him. But that's ALL I'm willing to do, If it starts getting more physical (him initiating it) I just don't want it. And I DON'T initiate it, because I don't want it.

Has something changed in your life, have you suffered a loss?

Are you still sexually attracted to your boyfriend? Really think deep down... Take a warm bath alone with candles and a wet warm rag on your forehead and focus on deep breaths and just relax. This should help!

I haven't suffered any real losses. I'm stressed about school and finances, so Money is a big issue.
And yes, I am still sexually attracted to him.
But I don't want sex.

I think that the best thing is to take it one step at a time. Rule out any physical issues, then deal with any potential underlying emotional of psychological issues.

I'm interested that you still feel sexual attraction to your BF, but don't feel like engaging in sex. So, it's really important that you keep talking to him about what's happening with you and that you keep being affectionate and touching each other. It can be really easy for a man to take a woman's lack of desire for sex as a rejection.

Just as an aside, there are a range of herbal 'remedies' like Horny Goatweed (yes! It's the real name) that are sometimes recommended for lack of libido. In Australia you can buy it from good health food shops.

Haa that's a funny name.

Anyway, yeah, I've never been more attracted to a guy.
I love being up close to him and having my body pressed against his when we cuddle. I love having my head in his chest and hearing his heart beat.
I love when he kisses my face and plays with my hair.
I love how soft his skin is, and the shape of his body.
I love the way he thinks and the way he expresses his opinions, and talking to him about anything and everything.
I really love the intimacy of being near him and with him.
I want all of that, but I lack the motivation or desire for sex. It's SO weird.

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

I don't know why, but recently I just feel absolutely no desire to have sex. (recently as in the past couple of months)

I have, but I'm not really satisfied by it. Also, I can't STAND seeing sex in movies, it doesn't arouse me, it grosses me out.

I used to be fine about it, and I used to want sex from my boyfriend. It's not like he doesn't do a good job, it's just that I don't WANT to.

Maybe it's just stress or something, I don't know what, but I don't want to perform sex, or have it performed on me. ANY sex.
Last weekend he tried to use his hands but I didn't let him.

WHY has this changed?

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Im sorry about the change for you, sounds like a temporary Libido issue.

For me, I've been this way all my life so it's the norm for me (asexualness).

But since you're in a sexual relationship, you need to check how your boyfriend feels about that.. you know.