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  • Sep 30, 2009, 08:18 PM
    mischief1
    Eye contact during sex
    What does it mean when a guy stares in your eyes during sex?
  • Sep 30, 2009, 08:26 PM
    BlackVY

    I'm guessing its intense and he is really in the moment and has got to be into you...

    Better than looking away or day dreaming...

    I guess it could be kind of similar to closing your eyes and letting yourself go...
  • Sep 30, 2009, 08:32 PM
    brookss3
    Yah, my husband always looks at me while we're having sex. I think guys enjoy watching women during sex. They are much more visual about sex, I mean look at the porn industry.
  • Oct 1, 2009, 05:14 AM
    smoothy

    Some people do , some don't... don't try to make more out of it than it is. Its not a bad thing.
  • Oct 4, 2009, 11:18 PM
    babigirl1

    My boy friend does the same with me. I love it, it shows me he is into me and it makes the sex better. We are so much more connected than if we were looking off at the TV or something.

    Another thing. Men are visual, but women are just as visual as any man. They just hide it. I love to watch just as well as any man and I will tell my boy friend
  • Oct 5, 2009, 07:45 PM
    j_ely823
    I definitely love the eye contact; however, there a few myths surrounding it such as
    If a guy look into the eyes of the woman he is just "having sex" with he will fall in love with her. Haha, its nice to know men think we possess some type of power to captivate all the attention and affections. I myself don't know if any of it is true. Another one I heard is if he stares her in they eyes, it will speed up the ejaculation process, which usually is a big no no for men as they like to last as long as possible.
    Wow good thing I don't have to hold back for an extended amount of time, I would be SOOOO tired and frustrated.
  • Oct 5, 2009, 07:48 PM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mischief1 View Post
    What does it mean when a guy stares in your eyes during sex?

    It means... nothing.

    He's having intercourse with you.

    Some guys stare, some guys hold your neck, some guys do this weird breathing thing... every guy is different.



    Sarah
  • Oct 5, 2009, 08:03 PM
    ohsohappy

    It means that this thinking about YOU. It's very intimate. My boyfriend does that too, (if I decide to have sex) it makes me feel really happy.
  • Oct 7, 2009, 02:42 PM
    honestadvisor
    I don't know anything about "guys" but only about being with the woman I love, my wife.
    In the beginning of our marriage, she never let me look at her when she tried to climax.; in fact she used to yell at me to turn away. I think that it was because she found it too personal and even though we were married, I was just another guy and she was not yet ready for such intimacy. Now after many years of marriage, she feels much closer to me and though she lets me look a little, she still doesn't like me to see her funny faces; maybe that was it in the beginning. As far as me looking at her during intercourse, I find it the most fantastic and exciting thing when we are staring at each other and we are both moving in and out. I would agree that ejaculation probably comes a lot faster when I look at her because she excites me so much but isn't that what love is!
    For those couples just spending the time together in a sexual adventure, I guess that there is no need to look at each other because neither really cares about the other. The girl is just being used (and will keep the secret from her future husband) and the guy is just having fun (with another notch)and he is certainly not interested in looking at least not at that time.
  • Oct 12, 2009, 05:28 AM
    LJDK

    I stare into my fiance's eyes because I am making love to her and not a fantasy. Also why I say her name during the act, its to make her understand that I am not just making love, but that I am doing it with her and no one else.

    But I cannot speak for all the guys out there. If it is a visual thing for arousal I would stare down our bodies where they touch, not the eyes.
  • Oct 12, 2009, 05:34 AM
    white-rose

    Well its definitely a good thing. If he is looking away or closing his eyes he could be thinking of someone else.
  • Oct 12, 2009, 06:39 PM
    dreamyeyez

    It definitely means he is concentrating on you and sometimes he is thinking about his feelings for you, or just seeing your facial reactions to the way he is having sex with you and what he is doing.
  • Oct 12, 2009, 07:15 PM
    letmetellu

    I look into my wife's eyes while we are having sex, it is a guideline telling me if I am getting her to the point of no return and I can get ready for the big finish. Then I know I am doing the right thing.
  • Oct 14, 2009, 05:46 PM
    NZG1RL

    I love looking into my partners eyes while we have sex. It makes the connection we have feel so unbreakable and well,. connected lol.

    If he's not looking at you at all during sex- that's a problem
  • Oct 16, 2009, 06:01 AM
    binucbg

    I think he want to satsfiy your need , you are happy with his deed or not. He want get you are response. Am I right, ask him ?

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