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  • Sep 29, 2009, 09:50 PM
    WayBackHome
    Strategies to forget about girls
    I've decided that I want to quit pursuing girls altogether and focus on my other priorities.
    I know I'm human and subject to human needs/desires. I guess I could have them as friends or acquaintances. If they are interested in me then I wouldn't necessarily turn them down. I want to know FIRSTLY: is this even possible?
    And SECONDLY: if this IS possible -- suggestions would be appreciated :D
  • Sep 29, 2009, 10:20 PM
    Clough
    Hi, WayBackHome!

    It's a choice that a person makes as to whether they can do that or not. Is there some reason that you think that you can't quit pursuing them?

    Also, what are some of the other priorities about which you're thinking of concentrating on, please?

    Thanks!
  • Sep 29, 2009, 10:24 PM
    WayBackHome

    School
    My band
    Getting maybe 20h of work a week.
    Guyfriends?
    Health/fitness perhaps
  • Sep 29, 2009, 10:32 PM
    Clough
    Hi again, WayBackHome!

    Concentrating on academics, and other things which might lead to a possible career, improving your health and seeking out other friends certainly sound admirable to me!

    So, what's one thing that might be keeping you from pursuing them with more concentration, please?

    I would also be interested in knowing more about the band that you have.

    Thanks!
  • Sep 30, 2009, 04:51 AM
    I wish
    Could this question be better suited in the Personal Growth section?

    Getting your life together is a good step and it will put you in a better position to talk to girls anyway.

    Whether it's possible or not is up to you. Concentration and motivation are two key factors. Try reading some of these books to assist you:
    Amazon.com: Self-Help Books: Personal Transformation, Motivational, Success, Stress Management, Happiness, Self-Esteem
    The Guide to Self-Help Books – Recommended Self-Help Books - Self-Help Book Reviews
  • Sep 30, 2009, 05:31 AM
    redhed35

    Make a decision and stick to it... start small,give yourself 3 months.. and expand from there,like a sabatial.. a leave of absence from dating...
  • Sep 30, 2009, 02:19 PM
    unaffected
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by WayBackHome View Post
    I've decided that I want to quit pursuing girls altogether and focus on my other priorities.
    I know I'm human and subject to human needs/desires. I guess I could have them as friends or acquaintances. If they are interested in me then I wouldn't necessarily turn them down. I want to know FIRSTLY: is this even possible?
    and SECONDLY: if this IS possible -- suggestions would be appreciated :D
    So did you decide against asking "girl" out?
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ut-398152.html
  • Sep 30, 2009, 05:58 PM
    WayBackHome
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Clough View Post
    Hi again, WayBackHome!
    So, what's one thing that might be keeping you from pursuing them with more concentration, please?
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by I wish View Post
    Could this question be better suited in the Personal Growth section?
    Getting your life together is a good step and it will put you in a better position to talk to girls anyway.
    Whether it's possible or not is up to you. Concentration and motivation are two key factors. Try reading some of these books to assist you:
    If the thread is going to take this angle then maybe we should move it (I don't know how to do this). The only reason why I put it in dating was because of the "stop thinking about girls" part.
    The only things I really want to focus on are academics and health. The other stuff I can handle easily. I mean these things should make me more desirable to a girl but I'm more concerned with myself at the moment. It's not homework assignments, it's showing up to 8AM classes and studying for tests that are not my forte. I have trouble getting up on time and getting to sleep on time. Friends are distracting. I feel the need to socialize too which interferes with my academics.
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by redhed35 View Post
    make a decision and stick to it....start small,give yourself 3 months..and expand from there,like a sabatial..a leave of absence from dating...
    Good idea!

    Quote:
    Originally Posted by unaffected View Post
    So did you decide against asking "girl" out?
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...ut-398152.html
    Yeah. I've been rejected twice already -- and it's not like she volunteered another time to meet. It was just flat-out rejection and "I'm sorry :(". I'm leaving out important details but they don't really matter because if she really wanted to see me, she'd suggest alternative dates. I was NEVER in a good position to ask her out anyway. It's an ongoing process but I'm going to back down unless I see her in person. I don't feel like I have much to offer her anyway (ie: she can do much better; I'm being realistic here).

    I'm not "giving up" per se -- but moving ahead with my head held high. Hopefully one day I will be able to interest her; but it is far from my life's goal. I just want to be happy and healthy (don't we all? :D)

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