There is this guy in one of my psych classes, and I feel the biggest connection to him.. I sit next to him except there is one problem, I have never spoke to him! I was always a very confident person never have had a problem getting a guy etc, but with this guy I feel such an intense connection and I know nothing about him. Sometimes I think he checks me out, but he seems to be very very shy and reserved. I have asked him a question about class and even purposely dropped my pencil. (juvenile I know) he just responds nice and sweetly but that's it. I want to get to know him so badly but don't know what to do without being too forward or coming off like a creep/stalker. I never felt so strongly about someone when I never even knew them.. I'm at a losss and am just thinking of giving up! :confused:

Just talk to him. You're in the same class, so you automatically have an icebreaker. How else do you make friends in the first place? By going up to each other and introducing yourselves. Don't put him on a pedestal, treat him like any other person.

After reading your other posts, I have a question, are you still involved with your boyfriend? If not, have you given yourself time to heal from that break-up?

If you are no longer a part of a couple, then, like I Wish said, talk to him.

If you are, then your off-limits until the current relationship is officially ended. Even then I would suggest giving yourself time before attempting to jump into another relationship.

My previous relationship is over for about 9 months now and I wish to not be reminded of it

If your in the same class why don't you ask him if he'd like to have a coffee with you some lunch time , but just normal as if it's no big deal.

Maybe tell him you're not quite understanding some of the material and ask him to help you understand it. It's a classic. =P

"giving yourself time before attempting to jump into another relationship."


Maybe he's the first boy who hasn't been attracted by you like any other boys.
You feel ignored as well.

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my previous relationship is over for about 9 months now and I wish to not be reminded of it

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Then who was the boyfriend in July of 2009?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...nt-376517.html

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basically about a month ago I had protected sex with my boyfriend... now a few days ago I had protected sex with my boyfriend again...

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Or was it your Best Friend? Either way is that relationship over?

Look I was in a really bad two year relationship that was abusive emotionally and physically, we broke up in feb but to make questions more understandable I said my boyfriend, I didn't know people would go back and read every question I asked. That relationship is over I'm single for awhile now and it hurts to think about my past which is why I asked to please not be reminded of it.

You sit next to him in class, say hi, and start talking to him. Then see what happens. No need to force it, or have great big expectations, just relax and find out something about the guy next to you.

Yes we do go back, and read everything you have written to give you the best advice, based on all the facts. They are important.

I think we all have seen people jump from one person to another, to ease the pain of the past.