I miss my true love.

I want my ex-finance back and I don't know how or if that's possible,
I think about him constantly and remember the great times we had.

It was my fault we split, I got cold feet.
I now know that I missed out on a special man.

I wrote him a letter just recently just to say hi and hope we can be "Friends"
Which in reality that is not what I want.

What is the sign that I should slowly throw out.. pictures, gifts, cards?
What do men think about when they were hurt and someone is reaching them again?

He may have moved on, I just need the answer that it is over with no chance permanently.

Just this past few weeks, It has been very overwhelming that my mind is with him..
What does this mean?

What you need to do is talk to him. Tell him what you're feeling, and that you feel horrible about the pain you've caused him.
Tell him that you want to know him if it's not too late, and you feel like you missed out on true love, etc.

If his response is wanting to know you too, well, you know what to do, but if he says no, he's moved on or not interested, start moving on. Don't offer friendship, you'll never get over him, and you will always be hurting.

Be confident in yourself, don't be needy, make sure you love HIM, and not the fantasy behind it... Best of Luck ^_^

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Originally Posted by TheCompromiser

What you need to do is talk to him. Tell him what you're feeling, and that you feel horrible about the pain you've caused him.
Tell him that you want to know him if it's not too late, and you feel like you missed out on true love, etc.

If his response is wanting to know you too, well, you know what to do, but if he says no, he's moved on or not interested, start moving on. Don't offer friendship, you'll never get over him, and you will always be hurting.

Be confident in yourself, don't be needy, make sure you love HIM, and not the fantasy behind it... Best of Luck ^_^

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Thank you for replying, may I ask if I don't hear back from the letter I sent, should I call or just take it as he doesn't want to make contact?

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Just this past few weeks, It has been very overwhelming that my mind is with him..
What does this mean?

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It could be that you are at a crossroad in your life where you are reflecting on the past.

Often when we have life changing events we tend to reminisce about the past and wonder what if I had done this or that differently.

Seven years is a long time to try to recoup.

I would not hold out much faith that he will respond to your letter but if he does I would tell him that you have been thinking about him.

People can change quite a bit in seven years and he may not be the man you once loved so I would keep it casual until you can play catch up with each other.

I do believe you should call. He can hear the passion in your voice, and the longing you truly feel. Letters tend to get lost, for many reasons as well. Best of luck to you, I hope everything works out.

Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up 6 years ago but we ar still very good friends, which is the hardest thing in the world to go through when your still in love with him. After we broke up I went through a deep stage of depression. Always thinking of him, crying, lost of concentration from school and work etc. We see each other everyday because we're from the same block so I constantly see him with other females. He always tell me he still love me but I don't get it if he love me why can't we be together? I hate the fact that I still love him. Years have past and Ive dated other guys but my love for my ex never went away. There was a time I did get over him and that was when he went away for a about a year 1/2 but once he returned so did all the feelings. Its now been 6 years and we've been going through it like separated married couple and Im tired of but I don't know how to delete him out of my life I love that boy so much that it hurts. I tried over and over to let him go and just when I think its working it's failed. Now to this day I have a boyfriend but my ex still plays a big part in my life and everyone in my life know that. What do I do.. Im sorry if this doesn't answer the essential question but I had to get that off my chest.

I agree with artlady about sending the letter,but keep it casual.. he may be married,be in a serious relationship,god knows how his life has changed in seven years.

You remember a man from 7 years ago,people change and grow,keep that in mind.