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  • Sep 27, 2009, 06:38 AM
    James15
    Sad break up
    Ok so I have had a girl friend for 1 whole year she was the first person I got my kiss with and first person that told me she loved me we were doing good I was always happy when I was with her we went everywhere with each other on school vacations we would go to different places like cape cod and other places we loved each other we were happy together then this summer she broke up with me I was crushed I would sit in bed and look at pics of her and cry now she like this new guy two months after the break up and she all ready likes a new guy she got over me so fast we were in the perfect relationship now she is mean to me all he time and acts like she doesn't even care help me
  • Sep 27, 2009, 06:58 AM
    sambam1111

    OK, I went through the same situation about 6 months ago. If you have her on Facebook or myspace or msn or anything block her. It will be hard but trust me it will help. The last thing you need to see is the latest photo's of her and her new guy. Second thing. If she got over you so fast then maybe she wasn't worth your time. She shouldn't like someone straight after 2months so maybe as hard as it may be to comprehend you two braking up was for the best. Third thing. Crying is OK cry as much as you want let it all out. Forth thing, don't stalk this girl. Don't look at photo's of her every night, don't check her Facebook profile every two seconds to see who's photo she's commenting on or who's commenting on her status you don't need to know. If you need to talk to someone talk to one of your friends, maybe a girl as they seem to be the best at d&m's. Hope this helps
  • Sep 27, 2009, 08:17 AM
    talaniman

    Leave her alone, and get your own thing to do. You make the mistake we all make, you assume she was as happy as you were, when the truth is, your were in deeper, than she was.

    It happens to the best of us, and we have to accept that their feelings have changed and just go about our lives.

    It sucks though, but only as long as you let it. Don't get to stuck on the first one, as the second may be closer than you think, if your ready. Maybe not this week or next month, but it will be another one, better than the first one.
  • Sep 27, 2009, 09:11 AM
    roxypox

    Had to spread the love tal, well said though!

    I think you need to find a new focal point in order to get through this and that is YOU!

    You might feel that she has gotten over this too quickly, but it is important to note that she has had more time. Often the person who ends the relationship has already gotten to a point where they are ready to et go and they have a head start on the healing process. While for you this came out of the blue...

    1.The first thing you need to do is to pack away all pictures of her, put them in a box, put them in an envelope... make sure they are out of sight and then take the box/envelope and put that out of sight.

    Do this with old letters also

    No more looking at the pictures, not now.

    2. Block her on Facebook, as suggested above! This way you can't see her on Facebook and you can't see her. (e.g. if you write on a mutual friends wall/pic etc, she can't see it and vice versa)

    3. delete her phone number and old messages

    4. delete her from myspace, msn or IM if you have her on there

    5. Do you have a hobby? If not what are you interested in?

    Try to focus on something you like and do this thing/these things for you!

    6. Hang out with friends, maybe even you can create a support system for yourself, involving 1 or 2 friends, maybe you can tell them that you are struggling right now so you want to do something with them once in a while to take your mind of things...

    Hope this was of some help!
  • Sep 27, 2009, 10:30 AM
    summer7

    Hi sweety... this is so sad. You will get over it though. A broken heart is so painful but look deep inside and remember other difficult situations you have been through. You got through those, right? And you have moved on. Well, you will get over this with some time and move on as well.

    You will have love again and it will be better since you will be more experienced. For now, let yourself go through those tough feelings. I usually give myself a time frame to mourn. Then I reach out to friends and then get myself involved in things I like to do. You will get over this. I know it is so painful right now but all this will pass and you will have another great relationship. Good luck.

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