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There's these girls in our class and they always call us nerds and geeks and if we say something in the class then they'll just tell us to shutup or ill bash you its rally annoying thankfully one of the girls is moving to melbourne but still I want it to stop
Please tell me some ways to make it better:(
Well, in a safe way, can you tell some teachers to help you out? If this isn't an option then you just have to stand up for yourself. Come up with some good come backs. Don't show that it bothers you, That will only make it worse. Once they see it doesn't bother you they will get bored and move on.
To add upon that, if they are somewhat threatening, get together a bigger group of friends. There IS power in numbers.
And also, don't retaliate. It could get you in trouble and violence does no person good.
You know it is so funny, in jr high and high school, it is the "nerds" that seem to be made fun of, don't get the dates and so on.
Now you move forward about 4 years or a little more, that nerd is now a engineering student or a premed student or in law school, and every cheerleader or beauty queen is after then since they are the ones that are going to be earning the big bucks in the future,
One thing you could do is imitate their snoby attitudes. They will get so annoyed and stop. Snobby people get annoyed when other people know they are snobby. Also when you call them a snob they get quiet and try to laugh it off like "haha.. whatever" because they know that they are. I've seen this a lot at my old high school.
I didn't mean to act like them and be like them, but to annoy them to get them off your back.
I guess that makes more sense.Quote:
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Yeah. I can see how it sounded wrong beforeQuote:
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This may not be a real question - one of those "my friend and I share an account" situation, which is not allowed on AMHD.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/beauty...ml#post2003331
Excuse me I'm sorry that I didn't make my friend create a account it doesn't mean that you have to be mean gosh all I want is advice on these girls that are bugging meQuote:
Originally Posted by JudyKayTee
Ok, in another post you said that you didn't care about this post and that this was your friends question. Yet I believe this is still you because you said you didn't want to make your friend create an account. Then again, you already discussed this with Judy in another post. So who is this asking this question? There was also talk about sharing an account. Please don't do it because it causes confusion as it did now with me. What is your age by the way? We all gave you some very good advice on how to get rid of these girls that bug you. What else do you want? Did none of these ideas work?Quote:
Originally Posted by Rebekah15
Believe it or not, I'm not just saying this to make you feel better, when you graduate high school it will not matter anymore. Nobody cares about all of those little things that jerks feed their ego's on.
Are people that act like that actually happy with themselves? No, absolutely not. They may act like they are the best thing to happen since chocolate in school but when they get home they are no different from you. They have just as many insecurities as anyone else, maybe even more because they usually don't have the support of people that actually care about them as a person and not a status symbol to walk around with. They constantly have to feed themselves with reasons they are better then everyone else because if they stopped trying for a second they would realize the awful truth, they aren't. Its much easier to laugh and say "dork" them admit that.
When you graduate everything changes, and I do mean everything.
Will you be making more money then them one day? Maybe, maybe not. I'm not going to say that people like this will always fail. They may end up being top paid lawyers.
Will they be happy? Not if they don't get their acts together and realize that its not fun or funny to be cruel.
For example one who was especially cruel at every corner, who was always the best is now twice divorced with a child and pregnant with a second that she can't afford to take care of. She didn't change as a person. She was still self absorbed and criticizing as well as other traits that put husbands out of the door.
Now that I think about it 3/4 of the girls that where "all that" are pregnant and soon to be single mothers or already one. Like I said, you treat a man like you did a classmate and he won't stay around. Either that or they are drawn to men like themselves and well that says enough.
A few changed and are pleasant people. You never can tell.
The point of all of this is that an attitude like that gets you nowhere in life and that they are not happy either!
I hung out with various groups from the goths/punks, skaters, preps/jocks, normal (which surprisingly there was), rich/popular to nerds/geeks. I also could care less what other people thought and I also would never explain myself to anyone - I considered myself a free agent! I was one of those girls that didn't tolerate bulling and would speak up and no one would say anything back (this is using the "right" way of telling someone off).
So in dealing with the "mean girls" which I use to know a lot of those growing up and it does not get any easier growing up and working at the "office" since no one grows up these days! Don't bother stereotyping them or judge them (or anyone) because you would be surprised about "who they are" and it has nothing to do with their character or behavior. Most importantly, how all of them end up in life is different... you can't be sure about anything - so don't stereotype or judge. For example, from my observation and experience, I knew a few nerds that committed suicide over bullies and/or high expectations or they became the controlling pencil boss or annoying/demanding supervisor that "thinks" they can tell everyone what to do because they are in the "position to". It is like a revenge thing like "now your taking orders from the geek" and then people make fun of them saying mean stuff the second they turn their back. I also know a lot of rich/popular kids that are still losers living off their parents and doing drugs while they gave everyone else such a hard time in grades 8-10. Most importantly, I also know a lot of them (individually) that pursued wonderful careers and many that have small families, comfortable life and comfortable jobs... so, don't worry about any of that for now.
You have a few things to do:
1) You could talk back but that would make it worse;
2) You could report it to teachers and parents - but I guarantee that it won't change anything... it could make it worse;
3) You could ignore it but you and I know that you can't anymore because it is effecting yourself esteem and some aspects of your life.
So, what do you think you can do? Do you think you could stick up for yourself? Do you think you could do it in an "intelligent way" without being shallow like them?
I think you can. Try looking into reading up on "How to deal with Toxic People" or "Difficult People" and "How to deal with a Bully"... these books vary and include a lot of situations and comebacks to equip you in dealing with someone nicely, respectfully and EFFECTIVELY. Always maintain your composure and don't change for anyone... just be yourself but be a courageous person by saying what you think with "purpose". Say one thing and walk away or turn your back and give no further response - MAINTAIN CONTROL OF THE SITUATION AND CONVERSATION.
When I say "maintain control of the situation and conversation" you are taking power over your actions and more importantly, controlling the outcome and leaving the other person powerless. They will eventually give up because it would be easier to leave you alone and pick on someone else so they can continue to appear popular, in control and cool (evidencing power struggle and irrational realities). Even if that means you said what you said and walked away and continue to walk while they are shouting. Remember who is walking and who is yelling! Who do you think is the one in control? The one walking right!
Please keep in mind that this isn't however how you climb the corporate latter we should help/show compassion, patience and respect each other even in competition and shine above the rest by working on our weakness and strengthening our assets. At work we give people power but maintain personal integrity and self control to find a solution that works for everyone. Team effort and true leadership qualities are a must.
In high school I did exactly what I didn't want to do and it kept me out of harms way. People respected my space and I respected theirs... only sometimes you need to earn respect. Many times I had to defend my bark with a bite too... I went to about 11 different schools from grade 1-12... so I kind of gave up on the idea of making friends or enemies; I did a little of everything extracurricular to get out there and experience things - to meet people:).
By obtaining your own personal power; you take away all opportunities someone else has power over you - mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically.
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