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  • Sep 23, 2009, 09:00 PM
    HalfDeadCrush
    GirlFriend/Boyfriend Troubles
    So yeah, I have this girlfriend right and some people think its weird and stuff, I mean I guess it is sort of strange, she really loves me but I just don't feel a connection anymore. We have some sort of awkward feeling around each other. What should I do ?
  • Sep 23, 2009, 09:04 PM
    MattyRamone

    You need to speak to her alone about who you two feel. If it doesn't work I'm sorry but if you both feel the same maybe you aren't meant to be
  • Sep 23, 2009, 09:10 PM
    HalfDeadCrush
    Uhh ohh
    Ok yer, I have this girlfriend BUT I like someone else :confused: right now I am so stuck, is it OK to fall in love with one of your bestfriends when your in a realationship??
  • Sep 23, 2009, 09:15 PM
    Reedie

    Its perfectly normal... Mabey you should talk to her about what's going on because she will be more angry if she didn't know and found out the hard way
  • Sep 23, 2009, 09:15 PM
    MattyRamone

    Sometimes you can feel infactuated by someone close to you but you might be making a mistake if you ask them out. You just have to follow you heart
  • Sep 24, 2009, 06:34 AM
    I wish
    It's not right or wrong. It happened. However, you need to split up the two issues that you are being faced with.

    1) If you don't feel the same way about your girlfriend as before, then you should let her know and make it a clean break. It's unfair to her to drag out the relationship.

    2) If you have feelings for your best friend, you have to set those feelings aside for now, because you're in a committed relationship. If you end up actually breaking up with your girlfriend, then give yourself some time to heal from the break up before considering another relationship. Otherwise, the new girlfriend will be a rebound and that's not fair to her, nor fair to yourself.
  • Sep 24, 2009, 11:35 AM
    jaime90

    Why did you even get into a relationship in the first place? You shouldn't rush. Love is a commitment. Personally, if I was either your current girlfriend, or your best friend that you love, I would avoid you. Clearly you aren't trustworthy enough to be in a relationship at this point. If I were your girlfriend I would be extremely hurt, and if I were your best friend I wouldn't want to date you for fear that another of your friends will come along and you'll fall in love with them, and this situation will repeat itself.
  • Sep 24, 2009, 11:40 AM
    jaime90

    Be honest with each other. Sit down and chat, or goof-off and try to re-connect. Put your best efforts into a relationship. The reason why you aren't feeling connected, is because you're beginning to get tired of working on a relationship with your girlfriend- maybe BOTH of you are. Maybe you've just gotten used to having each other around and there isn't a spark anymore. Don't freak out. If you're really committed to this girl, know that it will take a lifetime to figure her out- her likes, dislikes, personality, etc. so use your lifetime to figure her out! Become a student of your girlfriend and learn about her. She'll think you're really personal, romantic, and emotionally involved in her life, and on top of that, you can rekindle the spark that you guys started with! (oh yeah, and don't let her slack off, a relationship works both ways, and she needs to learn about you too!)
  • Sep 24, 2009, 11:51 AM
    I wish
    If you don't feel the same way about her anymore, then make it a clean break. Don't lead her on.
  • Sep 24, 2009, 06:58 PM
    HalfDeadCrush

    Yes OK I love my girlfriend, and I have for a long time, I really ant help how I feel heyy. I wouldn't like my bffl if I had the choice, and I am going to talk to my girlfriend about this situation. My bffl knows I like him and well he wants to talk with her and me too, We are trying to work it out nicely and so far they all understand.
  • Oct 28, 2009, 08:33 PM
    HalfDeadCrush
    My boyfriend
    So I have this boyfriend right... BUT he is 18 and well I'm 15.. My family is thinking I'm doing the wrong thing and now they say I have lost there respect
    But I really love him, like have never felt this way about someone in my whole life, to be honest I have fallen for him bad,

    He feels the same
    But I don't know what to do, I have spoken to my family about it but they just won't take me seriously, I try to talk to them but it doesn't work
    How can I solve this? Please someone help
  • Oct 28, 2009, 08:48 PM
    Just Dahlia
    I really don't know enough about you, your boyfriend or your family, but you are only 15. You are just entering womanhood, I don't think you should take this as serious as you seem to be.

    Between 15 and 18 I'm sure I fell desperatly in love at least 4 times!:eek:

    Just take it slow and maybe move to someone closer to your age for now.
  • Nov 13, 2009, 11:40 AM
    shayray

    Tell her you don't want to be with her any more. Don't led her on

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