Hi my name is Rachelle, and I have a beautiful 5 month almost 6 month old little girl... I just went to get back on birth control and was told to take a pregnancy test before I started the pill... well I took it yesterday and it came back positive. I have never been pregnant and not wanted a child but I don't want this baby. I've been thinking about the abortion pill mifepristone,(but not sure where to get it) me and my boy friend have been very careful and aren't quite sure how I ended up pregnant. We have been using condoms and used them properly. We advoided ovulation times (my dr help us chart dates until I was able to fully stop breast feeding and get on BC) now I need advise, I don't want this baby nor are we ready for another baby. I am not mentaly pysicaly or emotionaly ready for this. Is it wrong to not want this baby?
Please don't judge me I am only 17 and I believe this is very selfish but the right thing to do

I think you need to consult with your doctor and get the pregnancy and how far along you are confirmed. Then go from there.

I confirmed at 7 weeks 3dys.

First to others reading this, condoms even when used 100 percent as instructed have about a 3 percent failure rate, the normal accepted failure rate is about 10 percent as normally used.

Even using birth control and condoms there are small percentages of changes of still getting pregnant. No method is 100 percent.

At 17 have you discussed this with family and friends, there are 1000's of great homes that would love a new baby.

Have you considered adoption? There are so many families that would love to raise that baby. There is even the possibility of a private adoption where you can be very picky and specific about what family takes this baby. Not saying that is the answer, just a thought. I would not judge you, I just agree you should not take on more than you can handle, but please also consider the emotional consequences that may come later if you choose to abort. I'm not really pro or con anything, I think all situations differ, but I would implore you to consider the alternatives first.

I am not sure how to tell my parents, and my friends don't give very good advise. My boy friends parents already think I have ruined his life and mine by having my daughter. And I also don't think I could give birth again then give my child to someone. If I carry my baby I will keep it. More of me wants to end the pregnancy then let it keep going.

I've thought about it a lot. I honestly have. But I honestly don't think I could have this baby then hand it away. But I also can't see myself harming my own child or a child at that I am very torn

I would have to say that you need to consult with your doctor about what choices are open to you at this time. This has a lot medical issues attached that only the doctor can cover and advise you on.

Thank you. For your advice. I do plan to see my dr again with in the next week or so

Wow girl, that's a tough one. All I can say is I hope you make the right choice for you and your baby. You mentioned you feel making the choice to abort is selfish, allowing someone to adopt would be selfless... and thought this is probably really really bad advise, but I will give it anyway... Once that baby is here, should have could have would have won't matter anymore. I speak from experience. My youngest son was conceived from an abusive relationship, I loathed the father and still do. I considered abortion, very seriously considered it because I knew what kind of hell I would have for a long long time if I chose to keep it... in the end I kept my now wonderful 7 yr old son who's father still constantly puts me through hell (we are not together and haven't been for a long time)... but I don't regret him ever. He has brought far more good to my life than his father has brought bad.

Maybe you should talk to your parents about this, how much can they help? How supportive are they? Maybe it will be okay. I hope this all works out for you.

Rachelle, my name is tim... I am from a place referred to as ill-town, home of the cake eaters. I hope you make the decision that will help you most in life.

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ive thought about it alot. i honestly have. but i honestly dont think i could have this baby then hand it away. but i also can't see myself harming my own child or a child at that i am very torn

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I feel for you and your situation. In the end, only you and your boyfriend will be able to make the decision on how to proceed... of course the final decision rests with you.

You have a couple of options if you wanted to end the pregnancy... either medical or surgical, as well as adoption and keeping the baby as you well know. Weigh the pros and cons of every option. How do you think your life may look in a few years time? What if you and your boyfriend didn't end up staying together by then? Would you need and have support?
You can speak with your doctor and also visit any pregnancy centers that may be in your area for more info.
I wish you well with whatever you decide.

That's what my worries are we are still together but he is a marine so I take care of my daughter on my own with his support. I don't feel this is the best situation for me to take care of two children I realize that this my fault but I feel so stressed and I don't want to take that out on my daughter and my emotions are very out of wack and its very hard to take care of her as is... I want to do this but then I don't. That's why I was really looking for someone's advise that isn't in the situation and has a clear train of thought