I am a married woman with a 2 year old kid. I am in love with a married man. I have known him even before marriage. He understood some of my feelings which nobody ever did. He claims to love me a lot. Shows lot of care and concern. Gives me good advice on how to improve my married life. To make things work between me and my husband. But at the same time he also wants me in his life forever. He says he'll always be there whenever I need him.

Are you asking us to validate your affair with this man? You are married, he is married and your question is, "Does he really love me?"

You can't be serious. Wake up and sniff reality. Leave this man alone and focus on the vows you made to YOUR OWN husband and your own family. Grow up! I hate to sound harsh but I haven't even touched the level of harshness you actually deserve.

You re both married so at whatever level your relationship with this man is it's a betrayal of both your spouses.
Get real sort out whatever problems you have with your husband and stop interfering with another woman's husband who can't stop himself from running after another woman.

Thanks for the guidance and good advice


Was for a foolish friend of mine

Sounds innocent to me and nothing more than a friendship, though I could be wrong.

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Originally Posted by none12345

Sounds innocent to me and nothing more than a friendship, though i could be wrong.

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It is an emotional affair, nothing less. Regardless of whether anything physical has happened, there is nothing innocent about maintaining a "loving" relationship with another man.

This is definitely an emotional affair and can only lead to problem with your own marriage. Best thing to do is to focus on your husband or it will become a betrayal of your marriage and it will hurt both you, your husband, and your guy friend.

Married people can be friends, and good ones, as long as the boundaries of good behavior are not crossed, and your spouses know everything, and it causes no problems between spouses.

When there is confusion though, then it's a problem.

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Originally Posted by valli3005

I am a married woman with a 2 year old kid. I am in love with a married man. I have known him even before marriage. He understood some of my feelings which nobody ever did. He claims to love me alot. Shows lot of care and concern. Gives me good advice on how to improve my married life. To make things work between me and my husband. But at the same time he also wants me in his life forever. He says he'll always be there whenever I need him.

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You have to ask this question: If your husband had a "special friend" like this, would you approve? Probably not?

If you love this man, and he says he loves you, it's totally inappropriate.

Nothing good can come out of this.

Have you two kissed? Had sex?

Why do you ask if he really loves you? Are you thinking of leaving your husband for him?

Who do love the most? You can't have both of them.

How does his wife feel about this relationship?

The best "advice on how to improve your married life" is to stop seeing this other man and ACT like you're married. With a two year old child.