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I was with my ex for over a year, I loved him more than anything. And I still love him. He won't talk to me anymore. When we broke up I couldn't accept it, and I constantly called, texted, emailed, to the point where he changed his number... I want to be with him and prove to him I am a different person now. It has been 6 months and I don't know what I should do .
I think the best thing for you to do is try to get over him and carry on with your life.
When we are young, we fall in love several times before we find our soulmate.
This guy is obviously not the one for you.
Mr Right is probably right around the corner.
I wish you luck in the future.
I had tried so hard to move on and forget about him. It's not easy, and I know it's not supposed to be. I have had 3 boyfriends, and this one I truly believe we are supposed to be together.. I can't move on, no matter how hard I try.
The bottom line is you can't force love and you can't make him want to be with you.Quote:
Originally Posted by jenn3308
Needy and clingy is a very unattractive trait.
Learn how to be happy without a guy in your life and then and only then will you be able to have healthy relationships.
Love you first and get to be happy alone and your desperation for a guy who is out of reach will fade.I promise.
There are no soulmates. And no meant-to-be's. I'm sorry. You should learn things with every break up. Not only how to be a better partner for relationships to come, but also understanding who you are.
Love will only last a lifetime if both are willing to work for it that long. That's the way I see it.
You might have broken up for 6 months, but every time you try to contact him you reset all the progress you've made in the recovery process. So your progress is actually only from the last time that you attempted to talk to him.
It's a good thing that he's not really responding to your attempts to contact him, because if he did, it will lead you on and confuse you even more.
There's a reason he doesn't respond, leave him alone. What you need to focus on is yourself. You need to allow yourself to heal from this breakup. Otherwise, you will just drag out the pain and suffering.
Firstly, I have to ask why did you guys break up. From what you said, I picked up on the implication that it was something that occurred on your behalf.
And you really should try not to be so obsessed about it. Was he your first? If you continue to press on, the opportunity for salvaging the friendship itself may be lost. He will never feel that you are over him enough to talk with you. Just go out and be yourself. Live life again. You'll be surprised how quickly you may get over him if you give yourself the chance.
I am not too sure why we broke up, he never really gave me a reason. One day he just said, we are done, don't ever talk to me again and that was it... He has told people that it was because I didn't let him see his nephews but I know that is a lie because I loved those kids...
For whatever reasons he broke up with you he s adamant about having no contact with you.However much this hurts you need to find a way to get over him and move on.Have you tried seeing a therapist?Do you see friends-go out?Try not to identify with your grief, move beyond it.
I suspect that each time you texted, emailed, phoned, whatever, you strengthened his resolve not to get back with you.
Essentially you were stalking him. He changed his number so you couldn't contact him!
You may 'love' him, but clearly he thinks different. There is an old but corny saying that I think applies to you...
If you really loved him you would accept his decision. Move on and prove to yourself that you are a different person.Quote:
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never meant to be.
Harsh alert
Do you have any idea how silly you look trying to get someone who ignores you??
Do you realize the excuses you use to justify what your doing are so silly??
Can't you see the fool your making of yourself, or how really turned off he will be seeing you act such a fool?
Why can't you see what your doing to yourself?
Hey jenn3308!
Ok! I'm here to help :) Everyone else on here has made some great points, and they will make more and more sense as you heal... you should review them later. But I think right now you need to hear something a little different; having gone through this Same THING myself, I think I can relate. So I admit this is helping me too ;) I know you loved this guy for a good reason, he was your dream guy(which is HUGE), which may in fact be impossible to replace, who really knows? So what you're going through is like hell on earth, let's be honest. However, your OWN DEFINITION of a dream guy might evolve in the near future... allow me to expain. I have learned that it can be healthy to get a little pissed off sometimes, especially when they BREAK YOUR F'ing HEART!! This jackass didn't even give you a reason? He supposedly loved you for all that time and then simply vaporizes?! You need to amswer yourself this question: would you ever do that to someone? I wouldn't. I couldn't. Getting that far into a relationship without knowing how you feel and being honest about every step of the way is living a lie, which is a horrible character trait. It cancels out all the good stuff. I know it sounds cliché and I'm sorry, but you're better off without the bastard! Everyone else is right, you should focus on self love, since there's nothing more attractive than someone who really loves and cares for themselves and others around them. And this jerk will probably NEVER KNOW how valuable you are because HE IS TOO DAMN DUMB to look back. The moral of the story: In my opinion, anyone who can write off someone they supposedly loved that easily, either has a screw loose or has NO SOUL.
And don't worry about all the mistakes you've made already in regards to yourself respect, it came from your heart, which was true, unlike his. If you can think in terms of cutting HIM off in the near future, you'll be on the right track.
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