I've been with my boyfriend for quite a while now, and recently we've started having sex on a regular basis, he is only the 3rd person I've slept with. I do enjoy sex, but not as much as everyone else makes out they do, it doesn't please me and I don't get an orgasm. Is there somehting wrong with me?

How old are you, and do you live together?

16, and no

16 is very young to have a sexual relationship. You might think that you're mature and you've already had 2 other guys, but that doesn't mean you're ready. Don't rush into something like this. Take your time.

You should be spending time getting to know your boyfriend better and enjoying each other's company.

Yeah I know that, but that wasn't my question.
I want to know if I'm doing something wrong, or if its natural or not

I apologize before hand as this may be hard to hear, but you really have no business playing with something you know nothing about. You barely have a clue about yourself yet, no matter how mature you think you are, or how to cope with your own changing feelings, let alone the changes occurring in your mind and body. First you need facts that go along with those very intense feelings, and the understanding of where they come from and how to deal with them. Acting as an adult, when your not, is a dangerous game to play, no matter how good it feels, or right it seems.

Educate yourself, and get some time to grow, before you play yourself into some serious mistakes (pregnancy, disease, loss of control for the direction your life takes) or the distraction for your goals you want to achieve. If you had the knowledge required, then you wouldn't be questioning if there is something wrong with you. You would know that you and the guys you have sex with don't know what they are doing, just reacting to hormones and urges, they and you know nothing about.

Hope you listen, and learn, before you experiment. Don't believe me? Then answer a simple question, why are you having sex??

I await your answer.

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Originally Posted by tarahx

yeah i know that, but that wasnt my question.
i want to know if im doing something wrong, or if its natural or not

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Actually it answered your question perfectly.

You aren't necessarily doing anything 'wrong' you just don't have the maturity to fully understand sex and what it means.

Yes I know that every 16 year old knows what sex it and many engage in sexual activity but that does not mean you are emotionally ready for sex.

Having an orgasm isn't all about in-out-in-out rub this-way-that-way there are a lot of emotional things to consider, as well as general experience and understanding your body.