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  • Sep 18, 2009, 05:43 AM
    stifler_1
    My girlfriend left me yesterday after 1 year and amonth
    Hi I have just recently lost my girlfriend I was with her a year and a month and we have been living with each other from the start I got a text yesterday saying sorry I am not lying to you anymore Ive been seeing someone else and have feelings for them when I quizzed her about this a week ago she swore on her life she wasn't seeing anyone she cheated on me the first 2 weeks we were together with her ex and I haven't really trusted her since because she done that :( and I'm really upset Ive lost her she means the world to me and she is picking her stuff up tonight :( what do I do?
  • Sep 18, 2009, 05:56 AM
    amicon
    Im sorry for your predicament.First I must point out that you shouldn't use text speak,your post may be deleted.
    She s cheated on you and has lied to you,why would you want her back?Accept that its over no matter how much you re hurting right now.At the top of this page are the stickies which you should read lots of good advice there.
    Go spend time with friends and family.And look after yourself.
  • Sep 18, 2009, 06:06 AM
    I wish

    There's nothing you can do.

    1) She lied to you, so the trust is gone.

    2) She cheated on you. So the trust is definitely gone.

    3) She already told you that she has feelings for someone else. Feelings can't be forced.

    Let her go and move on with your life. Be glad that she's not dragging this out anymore. Be glad that you're free of all the lies and deceit.
  • Sep 18, 2009, 06:22 AM
    winding200
    You have been cheated by her, and she left you to sleep with someone else. What you had was not a working relationship or true love.
    Why do you care for the liar, and want to be with the liar again? Please do not waste a minute for the liar again. Thank god, you know what kind of person she was clearly now, and she stopped manipulating your life, and you do not have to live in the 'lie world' anymore. You thought she was your world, but it was not a good world you want to belong to. You did not deserve this.

    Please let her go ASAP, spend some time alone to regain yourself, and move on. There are so many nice girls are looking for nice guys like you. Being a single is a golden opportunity to meet the right person for your life. Cheers!
  • Sep 18, 2009, 06:37 AM
    Imabadman

    Sorry for you hurt. It blows...

    She's garbage. The biggest hurt now is the blow to your ego because she cheated. In a little time away, NO CONTACT, you'll realize who and what she is. You'll see the light and you'll realize she's worse than the Swine Flu with Herpes.
  • Sep 19, 2009, 12:12 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    What do I do?
    You let her get her stuff, and say good riddance to her.

    After the pain of her lying, and cheating is gone, it will get better.
  • Sep 19, 2009, 02:39 PM
    CanIBuyAClue

    Throw all of the cheating whore's stuff in a box and burn it! Ok, but seriously... what you do is:

    1.) Be happy that you are free of somebody of this sub-standard quality of character.
    2.) Do not contact her at all, hang out with family and friends.
    3.) Put her things in a box, and leave them at the front door, and don't even let her in when she comes to pick up the things.
    4.) Take time to heal, and then when you're ready move on to somebody that is honest and will appreciate you.
  • Sep 19, 2009, 02:46 PM
    Triysle

    Lessons to learn from this:

    1. Don't move in with each other right away. A healthy relationship needs a good foundation, and this can't happen if you never get time apart.

    2. Never give a cheater a second chance. No matter what the reason, it shows you what kind of person they are. No one deserves to be cheated on, no matter how bad the relationship is.

    3. Figure out what you don't like about yourself that makes you feel like you have to date liars and cheaters. Find happiness alone, and only after that allow someone to share your life with you.

    ~ Tee

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