I am awful at the missionary potion. The only time I feel adequate is when I am with a women with enough rhythm for the both of us. I can only be remotely effective if the girl leads and I follow her rhythm. This is driving me nuts. I feel like I am a considerate lover, there nothing more important me than my my lovers satisfaction. Nothing worse then not feeling adequate when I am on top. The worse part I am experienced and not young (32). For whatever reason I am awful on top. Do I use just my hips/back or do I also use my thighs and legs to move up in down instead of hips and to go in and out? Does this make sense... Also when I am on top I am very self conscious and I feel like I am stopping every 20 seconds and changing directions. How do I mentally stop this from happening?
Girls what makes sex, specifically in the missionary position for you good?
I seriously think I need a step by step lol...

Hm, not being a guy I can't give you step by step directions. But I can tell you that you being on top is not everything. Me and my boyfriend always fight (playfully of course) over who gets to be on top. Obviously, not every woman prefers to be on top. But maybe you're most compatible with women that do?

If you thrust at the same time and meet in the middle that's what works for me. If you can make any sense from that LOL. Also good balance and something soft under your knees are good things. Alternate Using your hips and your thighs, so if your hips get tierd use your legs vice versa that way you can go longer without being uncomforatable. Also don't be afraid to ask her opinion, ladies are often willing to let you know what works for them. :D

I think that you're focusing too much on technique and not enough on the person you're with.

The rhythm should come naturally from the movement of being inside them. Feel their pleasure and yours and move in and out with it. Feel the sensations on your penis and move in such a way as to stimulate it. Kiss your partner while you're doing this with your lips and tongue, feel how this stimulates your excitement and move your body with it.

Think of it like dancing and let yourself go with the sensation and pleasure. Don't worry about what you're doing and how you're doing it. That's a certain passion killer.

I agree with gemini, focus more on the moment, the sex, the fun, rather than the rhythm and techinicalitys of the situation.

Men all do it (in and out) pretty much the same. I think it's like dancing, you just can't think about it too much.

Try putting your legs outside of her legs. That gives you more leverage. Ask her which motion/angle/speed works best for her.

For most women in and out, up and down are not what is going to bring them to orgasm. There are a few women who can orgasm with regular intercourse, but not many.

Her most sensitive areas are on the outside of her body. Her skin is much more sensitive than yours (90% more, I read) and more prone to friction rash. And a lot of the "sensual" noises you hear a woman make are from being rammed. Not that she isn't enjoying it but it's hard to keep quiet when your insides are being rearranged with each thrust.

That's a woman's viewpoint. I wish some guys would give you some pointers.

Seems like you're over thinking things. Don't think about it so much, pay more attention to how it feels. You'll probably be happier.

I dislike missionary... we very rarely ever do it. Partly because I am a lot taller and weigh a lot more than she does, plus I have issues with a shoulder that make it hard for me to support my weight on it for a long time. No I can't ride sport bikes for the same reason.

Wife preffers cowgirl as it leave both of us with out hands free to do with as we wish. We can't do that with missionary.