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Abortion decisions

Is this something many women are faced with?

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Originally Posted by MarMar27

Is this something many women are faced with?

No, not necessarily. Why do you ask? Is it a decision you have to make for yourself ?

Tick

Well I am facing this myself and I am very emotional about it... "i know i should have not gotten pregnant and been more smart about it" but it's the situation I'm in right now, I went to the appt last week and couldn't go through with it just broke down, and I had to re schedule.

How far along are you Mar? Why do you think you need to have an abortion?

I should be about 7 weeks, well I am not ready to live with a man I love him but I am not ready, I live on my own work a night job and have a 2 year old, I have been very weak and tired to the point that I feel like I am going to faint, we have recently been arguing a lot and I don't know if we are going to last, and I went through a lot of emotional stress with my last pregnancy and don't want to go through it again.

It's a difficult decision to make - no doubt.

Take a little time to do some serious thinking. It might help to consider which choice you would regret more. I'd also suggest considering adoption as a third option.

Good luck with everything.

Do they offer any sort of counseling where you might be having the abortion done. I think I remember seeing a poster for abortion counseling in planned parenthood. Sometimes it really helps to be able to talk out everything when you have a big decision to make and a counselor that specializes helping women in the same situation as you may be able to help you figure out what's best for you.

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Originally Posted by MarMar27

i should be about 7 weeks, well i am not ready to live with a man i love him but i am not ready, i live on my own work a night job and have a 2 year old, i have been very weak and tired to the point that i feel like i am going to faint, we have recently been arguing alot and i dont know if we are going to last, and i went through a lot of emotional stress with my last pregnancy and don't want to go through it again.

Hi Mar, again, yes I see where you are coming from. I guess you don't really see a future with this guy then, You are unsure. You sound very independent as well. All I can say, Mar, it is your own body, but you know as mentioned previously there is adoption and that works well for some people. I wish you the best decision, Mar, but its so hard to say yea or nay to this situation. Please let us know and keep in touch here, we are here for you to converse with.

Ms tickle

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Originally Posted by MarMar27

Is this something many women are faced with?

Depends on how you define "many". While there is a fairly high number of unplanned pregnancies to unmarried woman, most pregnancies are planned or, at least welcomed.

But the fact is that almost every woman who gets pregnant unexpectedly probably faces that decision. Maybe devout Catholics aren't, but then they are less likely to have an unplanned pregnancy.

But really, does all that matter to you? This is a decision YOU face. YOU have to decide based on your own situation what is best for you. What other women have chosen has little, if any, bearing on what your decision should be. They chose what was right for them, just as you have to choose what is right for you. Just be thankful you have the right to make a choice.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

. Just be thankful you have the right to make a choice.

Amen to that

Tick

Thanks to all, yes it is a very hard decision and I know I will have my regrets and my depression, just thinking about it everyday is so hard.

But I feel helpless, I had a very bad first pregnancy, I was emotionally abused, and I am very independent right now as mentioned in the above post, and I just can't see myself moving in with my boyfriend especially since we are still getting to know each other.

I am also a christian and have always been very against abortions, I never thought I would be in this situation myself, I keep praying asking God to forgive me for letting this even cross my mind.

I really feel that being pregnant is not the right option for me. I am not only emotionally stressed about the situation, but I am also scared of the procedure, thoughts are constantly rushing through my head "well what if this happens" or what if that, there are possible complications.

I know this much, another lesson learned.

Yes they do offer counseling in this clinic.

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Originally Posted by MarMar27

I really feel that being pregnant is not the right option for me. I am not only emotionally stressed about the situation, but I am also scared of the procedure, thoughts are constantly rushing through my head "well what if this happens" or what if that, there are possible complications.

I know this much, another lesson learned.

If you feel that pregnancy is not an option for you right now, then you should not be pregnant. While I am a labor and delivery nurse, I am also pro choice. I believe you should have the choice to make any decision that will change your life, for good or for bad. I will not condone anyone for having an abortion. My personal thoughts are just that, personal. If this is the choice that you think is right for you... then it's right for you.

Honey I have gotten an abortion before.. I cry all the time because of it. And its not that I regret getting it done, I regret killing someone. But it was for the better I wasn't ready for a child, you have to ask yerself, can you take care of a kid right now, how much will it change yer life, would it be better to be pregnant or not, and eventually you will get over the fact that what you have done was wrong, but do what you think is best! Good luck I send my prayrs and love out to you! <3

Iluvyou, you're 14 and have already had an abortion? And even though you cry all the time you're over the fact that you did what you consider the wrong thing?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens...ir-123761.html

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Originally Posted by j_9

if you feel that pregnancy is not an option for you right now, then you should not be pregnant. While i am a labor and delivery nurse, i am also pro choice. I believe you should have the choice to make any decision that will change your life, for good or for bad. I will not condone anyone for having an abortion. My personal thoughts are just that, personal. If this is the choice that you think is right for you...then it's right for you.

Thank you that truly helped a lot, it is just a very emotional decision.. And I know it's something that will only make me wiser and do things with more caution, I feel that I conceived a life and its unfair to be taking it away in such a way, but I am concerned as well for my health at this moment, I just pray to God to forgive me.. I have not gotten the abortion yet, but I will be making the appoinment this week, don't want to wait any longer.

Good luck, MarMar you are doing the right thing for you.

Tick

Thanks all for the support, I do have another concern regarding a retroverted uterus and an abortion, is there any major risks with that? If any one knows.

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Originally Posted by MarMar27

Thanks all for the support, I do have another concern regarding a retroverted uterus and an abortion, is there any major risks with that? if any one knows.

Hi again Mar, retroverted uterus is fairly common, usually they say 'tipped' . I've got one too.

Tick

Oh really, OK... Yeah they've told me "tilted" I guess it's all the same thing, I have the appt for this Saturday at 9:45 am, it is going to be hard.