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  • Sep 15, 2009, 12:36 AM
    ohsohappy
    I had to change my number
    Jeez. It was almost 2 years aho I broke up with the boyfriend I had at the time (I've been dating a different guy since then) Actually, HE broke up with ME. The funny thing is, is that we tried to be friends for a little while but it didn't work out because we fought all of the time. Mostly it was because I had moved on before he did (we only dated about 4 months) So he did everything he could to make me feel like a disgusting person and tell me that I"m filthy and all this other stupid bull crap because I had started to date someone else about 3 weeks after he and I broke up.

    So natrually, I decided not to contact him anymore, and I told him that I no longer wanted his "friendship" or anything else that he had to offer. He listened for a few months, and then he would text me again. I ignored it, and then the next day he would send me multiple messages telling me "how much I mean to him, and I'm the last girl he ever cried because of, and he burned himself intentionally and considered suicide because I had told him to leave me alone"

    He did this a few times every couple of hours for like 2 days, until I called and yelled at him and told him to go "F Himslef and that I didn't give an S what he thought or how he felt" Then he'd ignore me for a few months and repeat.

    I was very clear to him several times as to the reason I didn't want any contact him. I had tried multiple different times and ways to block his number, but because of my plan, I was unable to. It was getting to the point where my Current boyfriend wanted to beat the crap out of him. (Obviously I wouldn't allow it) So the other day, the last time he had texted me I texted him back and said "Look, I don't know how I can make this any clearer to you than I already have, we are not friends and we never will be. I do not want you in my life. I don't get what's sohard to comprehend about that, really. Leave me alone" He proceeded to tell me how it was "such a huge expense for him to give me up" (whatever the hell that means) So I finally said "I am changing my number, today, I Never want to hear from you again." Then he proceeded to tell me how Immature I was, and pathetic because I couldn't grow up and have a conversation with him (another reason why he was an A-hole and I decided not to talk to him)

    Well anyway, my question is this; Why didn't he just leave me alone, when I had made it perfectly clear that I wanted nothing to do with him? Here's the kicker, He has a girlfriend he's been dating for I suppose about a year now almost. Weird huh?
  • Sep 15, 2009, 12:45 AM
    amicon
    I don't think anyone knows what's going on in his mind-whats much more important is-dont spend time worrying about it.dont get involved in any text conversations with him-just let it be enjoy your life and forget about this immature so-and-so.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 12:49 AM
    ohsohappy

    I'm just confused as to why the heck this wasn't clear as day? If someone said that to me, I'd be like "alright, have it your way, later" and not bother with it anymore. It just makes NO sense to me.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 12:56 AM
    amicon

    Some things just don't make sense happy.if sense and logic ruled the world it d be a different place-and possibly more boring?:-)
  • Sep 15, 2009, 09:57 AM
    ohsohappy

    That's probably true, But man, do people know how to annoy one another.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 10:09 AM
    I wish

    Nor matter what you reply, just by responding to his attempts at contacting you will give him a sense of false hope. Because in his mind, you took the time out of your day to reply. The more attention you give him, good or bad, it will give him some hope.

    In the future, avoid any type of contact with him. Don't spend anymore time on him. Block him on IM, social networks, etc. I'm guessing he doesn't have your new number? Do whatever you can to pretend that he doesn't even exist. Don't give him any sort of attention.

    If he behavior goes overboard, then maybe you should consider getting a restraining order.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 10:18 AM
    ohsohappy

    Yeah I ignored him for months on end, he still wouldn' stop texting me. I was getting so fed up. He does not have my new number, thank god, and I've blocked him from everything. I also no longer speak with any of our "mutual" friends that I knew before I met him. So hopefully it's the last I've heard from him.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 11:03 AM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    I'm just confused as to why the heck this wasn't clear as day?
    It was clear, so don't be confused by the actions of a jerk, be glad its been over for some time, and you have moved on, but he hasn't. Ignore him until he grows up.
  • Sep 15, 2009, 04:46 PM
    Romefalls19

    You made your point, and very clear. Now just continue to ignore him, shouldn't be hard with changing your number

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