I've been with my partner for 22 yrs with 2 really rocky patchs one being recent, he admits since the birth of our 4 year old on we have drifted apart and wants things to be better he doesn't comuicate very well which makes it hard, but has told me fantasizes having sex with attractive women off the street but we dot have brilliant sex life cause of children and money issues, his job which he dislikes he says he I still attracted to me but I'm not sure he is he never approaches me for sex its always the other way round, I haven't put on loads of weight but I liltte bit than before had the children, I feel the fantasizes are taking over his mind does this mean he's not attracted to me anymore and at I just don't do it for him I've tried varouis things to get his attention but nothing seems to work please help what am I doing wrong

Have you suggested counselling?there s a serious lack of communication in your relationship and even if we all have fantasies that doesn't mean you have to appreciate his sharing his particular kind of fantasy with you.it takes two to make a relationship work.I don't think he s pulling his weight.