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Why am I going soft during sex?

Me and my girlfriend have sex almost everyday and we love it. Recently I been going soft during sex, or right after cuming. Its almost like when I need to be hard or she wants me to be I can't be but when were not doing anything were having for-play I can but in the middle it gets soft? When she gives me oral I have no problem staying hard no matter how long. What could this be from? I don't smoke or do drugs, used to drink a good bit but stopped drinking 8 months ago. I don't know if this has anything to do with it but somtime when I try to pee its hard to get the flow going. Help? Thanks

How old are you and when is the last time you had a complete physical?

Im 16 and like 1 month ago, I didn't tell the doctor this because yeahh its embaressing.

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Originally Posted by 12121313

Im 16 and like 1 month ago, i didnt tell the doctor this because yeahh its embaressing.

Just for fun, how old is your girlfriend?

Oh god, you are WAY too young to be having sex. Wow.

You normally do go soft after you ejactulate, that is actually the norm, you can sometimes get hard again, but not always.

And to be honest sex every day, most likely body is just tired or you loose a little interest doing it.

At 16 this is not normal sexual activity. In fact it is illegal in many US states

My girlfriend is 16 as well, and yeah pretty much just for fun. And OK let me correct myself, not every day, it was pretty much everyday during summer, or every other day, now that school started again we can only do it on weekends, but my girlfriend is the hornball and wants it more then I do, and I can't say no cause then she'll think she's not attractive and I don't want her and bla bla bla lol. Plus I want to anyway lol its like when she wants to and puts me on the spot to have sex all the sudden, I can't but when its on my own, no problem. How is it illegal, were both 16? Yeahh I figured it was because it was too much and I been a little stressed with school and the fact that I went soft bothers me so when we try that don't help, think I got to get it of my mind, that's all. Any other info or help? Thanks

How is it illegal? She's underage.

What State are you in?

You refer to your girlfriend as a horndog? Yes, you're 16.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

How is it illegal? She's underage.

What State are you in?

You refer to your girlfriend as a horndog? Yes, you're 16.

Pa, and its sounds bad, it's a inside joke between me and her. And not horn (dog) I said horn (ball), like I said its an inside joke we have, its going to sound bad unless you know the joke. Besides the illegal factor, can you help me with my original post? Not trying to be ignorent so please don't take it that way, and from what I understood 16 was legal and I'm the same age?

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Originally Posted by 12121313

i can't say no cause then she'll think she's not attractive and i dont want her and bla bla bla lol.

Sex is not the only way to make your girlfriend feel attractive. Use your common sense child!

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

Sex is not the only way to make your girlfriend feel attractive. Use your common sense child!

Not being ignorent, but you seriously have NO CLUE what your talking about or what type of person I am. I NEVER rushed into anything or hinted tword it, I do a lot of things for my girlfriend, she is the one who wants it, I even tell her EXACTLY what you just said. I couldn't care less if she told me she didn't want to again, I love her for who she is and not sex. I tell her how much she means to me every day and just how beautiful she is and would do anything for her and her happy-ness. I know that's not the only way to make her feel attractive, its just what she wants.

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Originally Posted by 12121313

i know thats not the only way to make her feel attractive, its just what she wants.

Then maybe you should grow up a little, be a man, and tell her, "We are too young to be doing this."

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Originally Posted by this8384

Then maybe you should grow up a little, be a man, and tell her, "We are too young to be doing this."

I appritiate your concern guys but this turned from a question into everyone getting on my case, were 16 and both choose to have sex. Its our choice, and no she's not a hornball we just play around and call each other that, and her as well as me choose to and want to. I Love her and would never do anything to hurt her, if she wants to stop that would be more then fine by me, whatever makes her happy. I don't want her thinking its her fault that its happenening or that she isn't attactive or that she isn't doing something right because she is perfect, that's why I tried to ask you guys, thanks for ALLL the help guys, really you helped me sooooooooo much, like no.

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Originally Posted by 12121313

not being ignorent, but you seriously have NO CLUE what your talking about or what type of person i am. i NEVER rushed into anything or hinted tword it, i do alot of things for my girlfriend, she is the one who wants it, i even tell her EXACTLY what you just said. i could care less if she told me she didnt want to again, i love her for who she is and not sex. i tell her how much she means to me each and every day and just how beautiful she is and would do anything for her and her happy-ness. i know thats not the only way to make her feel attractive, its just what she wants.

You said youreslf that you can't deny her or she'd feel unattractive, that's what I'm talking about, you CAN deny her and still make her feel attractive. DUH. You're going to have to get used to people getting on your case, most of us call it like we see it. If you don't want people "picking" on you, then don't post personal stuff. It's going to happen

The answer to why you are going soft is to see a Physician and have a physical history and exam. Other than that you are asking "us" to diagnose your problem over the Internet.

While you're at the Doctor's office have a blood sample taken for DNA purposes so that that doesn't have to be done at a later time.

If you decide to stop having sex with your girlfriend that extra time might be well spent learning to spell.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

If you decide to stop having sex with your girlfriend that extra time might be well spent learning to spell.

Touché ;)

Can you tell me what "appritiate" means? :confused:

I would help you with appritiate but I'm working on attactive and happenening.

As I said - less sex, more education.