I was seeing some one for a few months , and now I am pregnant. We have both decided that it would be in his best interest to give up all his rights to my child. Seeing how he said he won't be around to raise it any ways (he wants nothing to do with it) I am OK with this, I would like it if he was around to help but I know it will on confuse my child later on.
When he gives up his rights I do not want even child support from him, so how do we go about doing so? And do we have to wait until the child is born or can he do it now?

He can give up his rights when you are married and your spouse adopts.
Why don't you want child support?
Do you make enough that you do not need money?

I just want to point out that if you file for any kind of government aid, he WILL be paying child support, unless you marry and your spouse adopts the child.

Most states won't allow a TPR unless there is a spouse waiting to adopt.

What I'm never going to understand is how someone can be good enough to have sex with, but not good enough to be a parent to your child. Why do people have SEX with that kind of person?

In any case, if he's not around, he's not exercising his parental rights, so what's the problem?

PS--your child has a right to know who their biological father is. Try NOT to erase this person from your memory, because your child WILL have questions about him.

Can you prove that you were raped? If not then you can't get a TPR unless of course you are married and your husband wants to adopt the child. Actually, if you are married then in most states the father would be the assumed father if the date of conception is with in the marriage. As pointed out if he isn't around then he isn't using his rights as a parent so there really isn't a problem. This is a very frequently asked question you will learn a lot if you read around a little bit.

I did not think that he was going to be an about all of this I do not believe in abortions and so he has decided that he doesn't want to be apart of its life. I do make enough money that I can do this on my own. I have seen what BULL my mother went through with my father just to get $50 a month. I don't want him popping in and out of my child life when he wants to, nor do I want any BULL . So for me and him this is the best thing.

Also I am not one of those people who will not tell there child who their father is I have kept a jornal since we started dating and have kept writing in it to this day so when my child is old enough to understand why we both decided to do what we did he or she can read it and find out every thing about him.

That's fine and dandy however, by law you can not terminate his rights. He can choose not to have a part in the child's life and agree that you will have full custody. It will make the first court appearance that much easier. However, keep in mind that if he does change his mind in the next couple months (because nothing can be done before the child is born) he can and will get visitation (if he goes to court for it). Even a couple years down the road if he has a drastic change of heart he can get a graduated visitation schedule. Like I said if the two of you can be adult enough about this it really dosen't have to be that hard but the second the two of you disagree is when all the "BULL" starts.

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Originally Posted by apina26

Also I am not one of those people who will not tell there child who their father is I have kept a jornal since we started dating and have kept writing in it to this day so when my child is old enough to understand why we both decided to do what we did he or she can read it and find out every thing about him.

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I don't believe that this is correct. The only thing to be gained by your keeping a jornal is your perspective of the situation. That's only 1/2 of the story. That's nothing close to everything. As the others have said there needs to be someone to adopt for him to give up his rights. As far as you projecting yourself onto your child that's another area you should be working on. If you truly want your child to have their best chance at life then give them every opportunity to do so that you can manage. One way to start is to stop using the term " it " because at this point there is a child growing inside you not a piece of furniture.

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

If you truely want your child to have thier best chance at life then give them every oppertunity to do so that you can manage. One way to start is to stop using the term " it "

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Another way would be to have a father... To CUT him off before your child is even BORN isn't a very nice thing to do to your kid.

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