Bottom line,

I've been with the "nice guy" for about 6 months known him for over a year.
Our relationship has always been long distance (he lived in the same state when I met him but when we decided to date he had to move to another state)
I would only seee him once every 2-3 months.
In one of our latest break ups I met another guy who lives down a few blocks from me it was an instant attraction it was intense it was just... chemistry! So we went out almost every day we got along great but, he is in a heavy metal band, only works part time even donates blood for cash but he is nice, no drugs he's a bit of a dork like the other guy.

So I have told both of them about one another (since even as an ex my ex would call me everynight)
Once my ex found out he was not upset he was just begging for me to wait for him to move back which he decided to do right away (when that was not the plan) I told this to the new guy and he said that was lame (we had only hung out for about 2 weeks at this point)
My ex begged and begged like a little kid (well he is 21) and so I gave him a chance...

He has been here to stay for about a week now and I find myself thinking of the other guy... I mean I have fun with my now again boyfriend, we laugh and do all kinds of stuff but the attraction for me towards him is simply not there!
I also started to notice I am so mean to him I get irritated with things he does and sexually I'm pretty much like a dude once we are done I roll over and pass out

And with the other guy it was so intense and passionate it was amazing but I could tell I was a bit more emotionally envolved with him than he was with me and that made me very insecure.

Today we started to kind of talk again.. he knows I'm still trying it out with my boyfriend but I told him that if I don't start to feel something I will have to end it...

What do I do? I'm stuck with the typical: "good guy" and "bad boy" sinerario...
The good guy wants to give me the world
The bad boy keeps me thinking about him all day
They both have something to offer but I don't want to cheat...

How can I decide?

If it were me, I would separate myself from both boys.

The "good" boy sounds clingy and desperate, almost loserish. If I were a guy and I knew that you were deciding between me and some other guy I would drop you. You should've known I was a good guy to begin with.

The bad boy well sounds more like infatuation to me. Did you have sex with him? It was unclear that you did or didn't. If you had sex with him during one of your breakups then it's more than clear that you should let the "good guy" go.

In my opinion if you open your legs during a "break" or one of your many "break ups" you don't really love that person to begin with. Like I said just my opinion.

What I think you should do is to step back. Stay out of a relationship with both or any other males.. or female? And grow up a little--- emotionally. Love triangles aren't exactly fun to be in.

To conclude choose yourself. I just think you need to grow up a little... but that's just me.

Sarah

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Originally Posted by miriwonders

with the other guy it was so intense and passionate it was amazing
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Pretty clear you had sex with the other guy.

You're a player and any guy worth his salt would have nothing to do with YOU

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Originally Posted by zippit

pretty clear you had sex with the other guy.

your a player and any guy worth his salt would have nothing to do with YOU

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Whoopa.

For some reason my eyes missed that part thanks zip.

Greenie: I agree.

Sarah

^ ^ can't edit a greenie.

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Originally Posted by zippit

^ ^ can't edit a greenie.

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:rolleyes: If you could.. what would you change it to hmm?

Sarah