I'm a gay woman... DeePly in love In love with a bartender who's straight.. However I've private room her a few times and felt how much passion we have. I will never know how she feels because she's never upfront about her feelings and she's in love with a man... Should I let hEr go and find someone else(

Yes.

Yep, time to move on and find someone else.

You are gay so imagine what it would be like if a straight man asked you out on a date? You wouldn't feel right because you are not attracted to men... well, that is how she would feel but in reverse.

Not only that but she is already in a relationship which means she is off limits regardless of her sexuality.

I agree with Shaz and Wondergirl.

Straight, bi, homosexual, etc. A prior relationship exists and until they make the decision that it has ended she and her mate are off-limits as is anybody who is in a relationship.

I am sure she isn't the only female around who you might be interested in if you gave her a chance.

Part of what might be making her seem more attractive at the moment is that she is off-limits. It seems to increase the competitive urge in some people or is "safer" to dream about than someone who is available, because of the underlying knowledge that he/she is out of reach.