Ok this is a list of my sex issues :

1. Im addicted I will either do it everyday or masturbate.. Ive had sex with about 30 different guys in the last 5 years

2. I find it so hard to get an orgasm with a guy. What annoys me in specific is the feeling that I constantly need 2 pee and I can never have an orgasm unless my bladder is 100% empty.

3. In my mind.. Im a freak I will do anythinggg and I mean anything BTU when it comes to the real thing I can't say anything and stay quiet and let them do whatever

4.Everytime I get into a relationship I think I really like the guy and I'm convinced I want to be with him but its like as soon as we have sex I run away and get bored quickly...


AHHHHHHHH :eek:

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Originally Posted by truthbetold

I have huge sex issues

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Hello truth:

Nahh. You have relationship issues. I'll bet you're really young too. So, instead of jumping in next time, stand on the sidelines..

Oh yeah, about the sex... You just haven't run into a guy who'll ring your bell, yet. You will.

excon

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Originally Posted by excon

Hello truth:

Nahh. You have relationship issues. I'll bet you're really young too. So, instead of jumping in next time, stand on the sidelines..

Oh yeah, about the sex... You just haven't run into a guy who'll ring your bell, yet. You will.

excon

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Thanks for that :p

Truthbetold; Ok this is a list of my sex issues :

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1. I'm addicted I will either do it everyday or masturbate.. Ive had sex with about 30 different guys in the last 5 years

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You need other things in your life to balance yourself, as too much of one thing brings its own problems.

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2. I find it so hard to get an orgasm with a guy. What annoys me in specific is the feeling that I constantly need 2 pee and I can never have an orgasm unless my bladder is 100% empty.

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Go before hand.

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3. In my mind.. I'm a freak I will do anything and I mean anything but when it comes to the real thing I can't say anything and just stay quiet and let them do whatever

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On some level maybe your not connecting with your partners. Sex is not the only reason you chose them is it?

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4.Every time I get into a relationship I think I really like the guy and I'm convinced I want to be with him but its like as soon as we have sex I run away and get bored quickly...

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Don't have sex until you know them a lot better. Do you do other activities besides have sex? You really should try dating and getting to know them a lot more.

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AHHHHHHHH :eek:

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I get that way sometimes. We all do.

How old are you?

What kind of things are you trying to achieve orgasm? Hitting the G-spot makes you feel like you need to pee but if you learn to let go of the feeling that you need to pee when you don't, you may be able to have a great orgasm from it.
There is a chance it could be a UTI so if you're getting any pain with it then go to the doctor. Since you don't mention having this feeling all the time, I'd say it was a very small chance.
In terms of relationships I'd advise holding off on the sex for a while and really get to know the person first. Hopefully you won't get bored and you'll be comfortable enough with them to be the person you want to be in the bedroom. If a relationship is what you're after, learn to love them and make sure they love you before you jump into bed with them.
Personally, I think 90% of it is down to a self esteem issue that needs to be addressed.

I agree, how old are you for starters.

Instead of jumping into bed, then hoping a relationship evolves... try developing a relationship before even thinking about jumping into bed.

Sex when your are young, makes it very hard to develop a relationship because you don't have the life perspective to differentiate between lust and love.

Most single guys (and a few married ones too) will sleep with any woman that will let them... not a good way to get to know someone. And that is the key thing for a woman... its easy for a guy to get off, even if he hates the woman. But women are very cerebral in that area and she really needs to have that connection for that to happen. That's why I say, find a nice guy... develope a good relationship... THEN at some point in the future you can consider sleeping with him... or not. Look at it as having your dessert before having your meal.

Well thanks people so yea I'm 22

Slow down. You won't find what your looking for if you keep going 1,000 miles per hour.

Orgasm with a partner is very different from release through masturbation. Trust in your partner can also be a big part of actually letting go.

Something you may try is finding someone you want to try having a relationship with. Instead of having sex immediately, talk, get to know one another, maybe share fantasies. See how much the build up of anticipation helps in getting over the mental and physical roadblocks you're giving yourself.

I suspect that your biggest issue is the fear of intimacy.

All the things that you describe as 'issues' regarding sex are related to not wanting or to being afraid of being close to another person. This may also be why you struggle to reach orgasm, because you find it difficult to be close to someone and let go.

Some of the behavior you describe is possibly obsessive/compulsive, and at your age it's good that you are aware that something is not quite right.

My suggestions would echo those of other posters, but I would also add that speaking to a counselor, I think, would be of great benefit

Relationships, and the way we deal with them, are an integral and important part of our lives. It's vital that you deal with your issues related to relationships if you are to have a happy and fulfilling life.

Please seek some help now, I am sure you will not regret it and your AHHHHH will diminish considerably!

30 guys in 5 years means the average time spent on each relationship was 9 weeks... and that is only if you broke up with one guy and went out with another one the very next day.

I know it has been said but your innability to orgasm with these partners means absolutely nothing...
It takes quite a while for your bodies to get in sync with each other and learn what the other person likes, in a lot of cases, much longer than 9 weeks.

My suggestion would be to try joining some clubs that you would be interested in, whether it be a local bowling club or a sports club, something to get you out there meeting guys that you ALREADY have something in common with.
That will give you a subject to focus your attention on, plus a venue for the first date with NO sex.

Be honest with any new guys you meet. If they want sex tell them NO, you want to wait and get to know them better before jumping into bed with them.