Why do I always desire to be loved and to love. I can't think of myself being by myself. I stayed in an abusive relationship just to not be by myself. I left this relationship finally when it became very uncontrollable. I am in another relationship with a married man and I know that it is wrong and as much as I want to end it to I just can't until I find someone else. I am afraid to date but yet I can't seem to be alone. Why do I feel this way can someone help me?:(

Marisa,

I noticed that you are getting great help from Val. She is wonderful!!

I just want to ask you something.

What are you good at? What can you do well?

You need to look at the positive side of you. Things you can do alone with help from no one.

The reason you have trouble being alone is you aren't all grown up. It has to do with how you were abused, at what age, etc. which is why it may be beyond the scope of the people at this site to help much beyond point you in the right direction or to professional help, Marisa. I assure you its not the end of the world and there really is help available in the world. You just need to avail yourself of it. Asking the same question over and over or distracting yourself with lots of others things here isn't going to make it be different. I really do know how hard it is for you right now and I am positive that I have pointed you in a direction that can yield spectacular results too. You only need take the first step. We'll be right here.

Thanks for all of your help and I am using all your views and opinions in my everyday life questions and issues. I am hoping to solve my problem by thinking of myself first. I put peoples feelings before mine and I was told that many times. So keep advising me and I think I might be able to.