I'm dating this amazing guy named kyle, he has really touched my heart. But I have recently discovered that he is cheating on me and I don't know what to do. My feelings for kyle are strong, however there is this guy named alec who I also have strong feelings for and I know that he would never hurt me or cheat on me. The problem is I wouldn't even know where to start on breaking up with kyle and what happens if I do then I realize I can't live without him. Or what if alec decides that he doesn't want to wait for me anymore or that he doesn't like me anymore. What am I supposed to do! :confused:

Can I ask how old you are?generally speaking a cheat is a cheat is a cheat.and jumping out of one relationship into another is not a good idea.try to build a good relationship with yourself first.there s no law that says you have to have a boyfriend.

I'd say call your current man out on the cheating thing. That's a good first step. Things can domino and become easier from there.

As far as breaking up with kyle,that should be a no brainer.
He has a girlfriend,I would not even consider giving him the option of her or me..
Kick him to the curb,move on before you get really hurt.

As for alec,if you don't see a problem with kyle cheating or are in two minds what to do,leave alec alone!

Let him find someone emotionally available and single.

Try being on your own for a while,work on yourself esteem,as amicon said,there is no law that says you have to have a boyfriend.

I would say that you need to understand that Kyle is cheating on you. This means that he likes other women. If this is the kind of guy you want to be with then I wish you the best of luck because you're going to need it.

You probably thought Kyle would never cheat until you found out he was didn't you? What makes Alec any different? It sounds like you need a man to validate yourself. You should try being comfortable by yourself and maybe work on your self-esteem.

What's so hard about making a decision about Kyle. There is no relationship with this man, he is a cheater. So your not being honest to him either, because you have feelings for two people at the same time. Your not playing fair game also. Your lying to Kyle, by having feelings for Alec. I would suggest to you to get your life together first before getting involved with anyone else. Good luck.

Until you love yourself a whole lot better, stay out of any relationship. Jumping from a cheater to another guy, is not the answer to you being happy with yourself. If you loved yourself, you would know what to do with a liar, and cheater, and would just confront them, and then dump them.

If you loved yourself, you wouldn't even need a guy to make you feel special, nor would you have to take anyone's crap either.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Until you love yourself a whole lot better, stay out of any relationship. Jumping from a cheater to another guy, is not the answer to you being happy with yourself. If you loved yourself, you would know what to do with a liar, and cheater, and would just confront them, and then dump them.

If you loved yourself, you wouldn't even need a guy to make you feel special, nor would you have to take anyones crap either.

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Well said, Tal.

I am absolutely positive now that I should break up with kyle then I ran into another obsticle. Where do I evn start?

Break up with Kyle.

Let your heart heal.

Learn to love yourself enough to not be taken advantage of.

Then you can pursue others.

Rebound relationships almost always turn out bad, why would you want to jump from one bad relationship to another?

Lovestrukk, there is no relationship, you are in love with a man who you cant't trust. As, I said you are both living a relationship built on lies. It isn't healthy.