Me and my wife were separated for 6 days. She asked me to come back because of my son until she makes a decision. Before this she did this twice with no separation but agreed to try and fix it and came back in the relationship. This time she said it was final but she acts confused and has asked for some time and space to think things through. She said it happened since our almost 3 yr old son was born and that she was not appreciated and neglected. I can't see what I've done wrong especially after the birth of my son as she had post natal depression I stayed away as that was her wish but helped her every step of the way. However I am willing to change whatever habits she thinks are wrong. What am I supposed to do? I am afraid that she will ask for some time apart (mentioned 6-9 mths) although living under the same roof. I am only prepared to something like that if I knew we worked on fixing the marriage even if it takes a whole year. I am not prepared to wait for an answer for 6-9 months. Not that I don't value this marriage I wouldn't be able to cope with such anxiety and insecurity. What steps can I take to fix my marriage.

I can understand your problem.U better try to talk with your more privetly try take out on your weekends and ask her why she trying to take a time of 6 to 9 months to be separate and tell her that if I hurt by my nature I am extremely sorry for that and I can't live without you and I LOVE U. so much.Hereafter she will recognise her mistake and she will take care of it.

Would she be willing to go to councilling?

There is a lot going on here,and you both need to talk through the issues and get to the root of the problem.

A third party may help give you both some insight,in the meantime,help with your son as much as possible and be kind to each other,as hard as thst may seem,anger and resentment will only cause to make the situation worse.

Sounds like she has not quite recovered from the depression. A couples therapy session or 6 would seem to be in order here.

Try 'showing' her you love her by doing the things you normally don't do. I'm kind of in the same boat with my wife, and in the last 3 months, I've been more responsible around the house, with the kids, with doing the bills... everything that used to burden her. Just a few days ago, she commented on my 'transformation' but just this morning voiced her concerns that it won't last, and I'll just go back to being what I used to be... selfish, not willing to help, just care about myself, etc. I'm working hard on trying to 'show' that it isn't BS and that I'm a changed man. But that, too will take some time. I'm putting my marriage first and will do everything it takes to show her. Actions speak louder than words. Nothing worth fighting for comes easy. Good luck to you, Brother!

I agree that you both need to go to counselling. She can't expect you to hang around in an anxious state until she makes up her mind about what she wants to do with the relationship.

An objective third party can help her work though her confusion and depression and can assist you both to work on your marriage, if that is what you wish.

It may be that when she says that she wants to be 'left alone' and you take her at her word, she actually means something else. Counseling can help you sort out your communication system so that you understand each other better.

You have a young child so it's important, as 1800proof says, to fight for your marriage.

I think when a woman says I have no feelings for you its over, its hard to say that but I'm in the same boat as well