Ask Me Help Desk - Why being like this after broke up on good terms?

My girlfriend has just split up with me and I really don't understand what is going on. We had been together about a year and everything was ggreat we had been talking of moving in together for last couple of months. We were having a great time just spending every minute together and when I did take her home one day she would text me that night telling me how much she was missing me already.then it started.it had recently been her 18th birthday couple days prior and the next night after textin me this she was going out for a girls night out to celebrate she said she had a good night, fine, but when I met her again next night she seemed a bit distant thought she was just hungover but for the next couple of days things didn't quite feel right she wasn't as loving wouldn't ring me as much in fact we barely spoke for couple days when she went over her friends. The next time I met up with her she broke up with me.we were both really upset she just said she didn't feel the same and was unfair to stay with me.but thanked me for everything said she will always love me an so on.we work together which makes it a bit more awkward but we both agreed to make it as easy as possible.thought we had split on good terms.ever since all she has done is gone out most nights.and for some reasons she absolutely hates me!! she evils me every time we walk past each other makes comments when I'm talking to people.and says she wants me out her life and never wants to see me again.why has she suddenly turned like this?she never talks to anyone about anything just builds it up so I don't understand why she being like this.she has told me several times since the break up that she doesn't love me anymore.but no need to hate me!why is she being like this?is there any chance for us?

Don't worry about it. Don't worry about her. Don't contact her. Pay her zero attention. Doesn't seem like anything worth pursuing, regardless of how much you love her. Love her by giving her what she wants (as far as you know) - Distance. Find a girl whose mind doesn't take walks off maps.

Although your situation is a painful one, you should try to distance yourself from her and work on moving on!

The way she is behaving, you need to ignore her! You should focus on you!

Sorry to hear about the break up must have been tough. From the way you spoke about her night out I think something must have happened that night. Either one, she did have such a good time with her friends she wanted more of a social life so had to chose between you or friends. Two, She did something she didn't mean to do with another guy therefore breaking up with you to save you more pain of finding out or Three, There have been accusations among her friends about you being unfaithful so she split with you to save herself pain. Either way out of any of these options she is blaming herself and feels very hurt. Girls are confusiing creatures we can say one thing and mean another and its like a little test. We may say leave us alone but really mean come runnng after me you jerk and show me you love me! Either way you're not really going to find out what happened to change her mind about staying friends on here, You need to go straight to her to find out or if that doesn't work ask one of her close friends. Warning it may cause more trouble and pain for yourself in the long run. I can't see much of a chance of you two rekindling what you've lost but I wish you the best for the future

Walk away from this-find your own space-there s no point in trying to secondguess another person.dont fall into that trap.also don't contact her. Read the NC stickies.good luck.

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why is she being like this?

She is the female version of a jerk. Or you keep messing with her. Which is it?

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Is there any chance for us?

I don't think so! Sorry, time to leave her alone.

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Talaniman, Or you keep messing with her. Which is it?

This I'm guessing

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Originally Posted by rabbit88

My girlfriend has just split up with me and i really dont understand what is going on. we had been together about a year and everything was great we had been talking of moving in together for last couple of months. we was having a great time just spending every minute together and when i did take her home one day she would text me that night telling me how much she was missing me already.

EVERYTHING WAS GREAT HUH? REMEMBER SHE DUMPED YOU GUY! OBVIOUSLY THINGS WAS NOT SO GREAT. YOU OVERRATED HER INTEREST LEVEL. Spending every minute together huh? That's was the problem. You got too familiar with this girl. Over time she loss interest. You gave her everything. You wasn't a challenge. And sure enough you didn't have any self-control EITHER.

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Originally Posted by rabbit88

Then it started.

Nothing happens all of a sudden. Your eyes wasn't open to the reality of the situation. She was slipping and you didn't see. Rationalizing her actions will destroy you every time.

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It had recently been her 18th birthday couple days prior and the next night after textin me this she was going out for a girls night out to celebrate she said she had a good night, fine, but when i met her again next night she seemed a bit distant thought she was just hungover but for the next couple of days things didnt quite feel right she wasnt as loving wouldnt ring me as much in fact we barely spoke for couple days when she went over her friends. the next time i met up with her she broke up with me.we were both really upset she just said she didnt feel the same and was unfair to stay with me.

She got distant and what did you do go after her thus pushing her away from you? She doesn't feel the same because she lost interest...

NEVER MAKE A GIRLFRIEND YOUR TOP PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE. SHE IS TO BE A SMALL PART OF YOUR LIFE. YOU MADE THIS GIRL YOUR LIFE....AND IT COSTED YOU THE RELATIONSHIP...MAKE SURE THAT YOU ALWAYS KEEP YOUR INDIVIDUALITY AND YOUR LIFE IN CHECK ALWAYS...

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But thanked me for everything said she will always love me an so on. We work together which makes it a bit more ackward but we both agreed to make it as easy as possible.thought we had split on good terms. Ever since all she has done is gone out most nights and for some reasons she absolutely hates me!!! She evils me everytime we walk past each other makes comments when im talkin to people.and says she wants me out her life and never wants to see me again. Why has she suddenly turned like this? She never talks to anyone bout anything just builds it up so i dont understand why she being like this. She has told me several times since the break up that she doesnt love me anymore but no need to hate me! Why is she bein like this?

She would always love you...yeah...yeah...just empty fluff...letting you down easy...thats the reason she left you....SHE FELL OUT OF LOVE...!!!

Dude whatever she does now in her life... shouldn't be any of your concern anymore. MOVE ON!! You're only hurting yourself in the long run here.

AND GUESS NOW SHE RESENTS YOU!!! Did you go CHASING this girl after the fact? Did you go begging for this girl back?

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Originally Posted by rabbit88

Is there any chance for us?

DUDE THIS GIRL HAS MADE IT SO CLEAR TO YOU THAT SHE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!! LEAVE THIS CHICK ALONE!! YOU MAKING YOURSELF LOOK BAD BY RUNNING INTO THAT BRICK WALL... DONT BE RAN BY YOUR EGO AND EMOTIONS... LOOK AT REALITY HERE!!

IT'S OVER BUDDY... GET IT THROUGH YOUR HEAD!

THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS GO COMPLETELY "NO CONTACT" AND WHEN YOU SEE THESE GIRL AT WORK TREAT HER AS IF SHE DOESN'T EXIST... TALK TO GIRLS IN FRONT HER... OTHER WORDS MOVE ON!!