Moved to its own thread.

Hi I'm trying to get a divorce form my husband and I really don't know how to ask or what to do I'm 21 yrs old and I'm married with this guy for 3 yrs never been happy in my marriage but I always tried and fake that I'm happy just because of him because he really loves me,now I'm in love with someone else and I die to be with that person I never meet him we are just connected through Internet we see each other hear each other everyday,however I really need some help how should I leave my husband or should I stay with him and sacrifice myself by loving someone else

Thank you

Zuma,

You cannot blame any of this on your husband. He has not provided you with enough excuses to justify having an online affair with another man.

If you have no love for your husband, then do him a favour, and stop robbing him of the possibility of a life with someone who can love him.

Be a big girl, see a lawyer, get the ball moving.

I hope that you realize that by not even trying to work out your problems, that you have left your vows to the wind, and your fidelity down the toilet.

Not to mention what kind of man is on the other end of your internet connection. Is he also cheating on his wife? And what kind of a man would cheat with a married woman anyway. That in itself says a lot about his character as well.

It's very sad that you need advice on what to do. It should be obvious.

I am not for those online things, but for sure you can get a divorce whether your husband is willing or not. Thats what you must do for yourself. There is no asking, just doing, if you are that unhappy.

Sigh! Another teenage marriage bites the dust.

Girl you need to grow up! I don't know what the circumstances were for marrying your husband, but clearly you weren't really in love with him Even if you thought you were at one time.

What's worse is you want to leave someone who you believe DOES love you for some stranger you met on the Internet and probably know very little about. And what happens when you divorce your husband and fine Internet guy is actually a pimply faced 14 year old having fun with you?

Before you even consider devastating your husband, I suggest you get some counseling. I also suggest you do a background check on Mr Internet Homewrecker and make sure he's real.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Girl you need to grow up!

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Yes, I agree, this type of attitude represents a great deal of immaturity.. Whatever you do about a divorce, my advice would be to seek some advice from a therapist about how you should handle these adult situations in the future.

Marriage is not a small thing...

Are you in love with the new guy or in lust?

Lust fades and he may be pushing all your buttons now but what happens when he starts to fade?

On to the next one? Always have to have that charge?

You have an immature idea of what true love is.

Its not a rush of emotion.

If you keep looking for love in the way you are you will be burned out by the time you are 25.

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Originally Posted by artlady

Are you in love with the new guy or in lust?

Lust fades and he may be pushing all your buttons now but what happens when he starts to fade?

On to the next one? Always have to have that charge?

You have an immature idea of what true love is.

Its not a rush of emotion.

If you keep looking for love in the way you are you will be burned out by the time you are 25.

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So, from what I'm hearing in this thread, it sounds to me like you should be asking a few more questions, specifically about how you got to where you are in your relationship, and how to understand relationships a bit better. It's such a shame to be divorced so young. You need to make sure you don't keep repeating the same mistakes however.

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Originally Posted by aboleth

So, from what I'm hearing in this thread, it sounds to me like you should be asking a few more questions, specifically about how you got to where you are in your relationship, and how to understand relationships a bit better. It's such a shame to be divorced so young. You need to make sure you don't keep repeating the same mistakes however.

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Honey, I am 55 yrs.old and I got rid of fools long ago in my past.
I'm giving you the benefit of my experience,take it or leave it!
I tell it like it is and if I offended you I'm sorry but I stand by what I say.

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Originally Posted by artlady

Honey, I am 55 yrs.old and I got rid of fools long ago in my past.
I'm giving you the benefit of my experience,take it or leave it!
I tell it like it is and if I offended you I'm sorry but I stand by what I say.

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Oh you think my comment was directed at you... I can see how that could be seen as such with my quote. My comments were directed towards the OP, using your quote as a reference... The OP needs to be asking themselves some serious questions that go far beyond her new internet boyfriend.

Sorry for the confusion. I think your advice si good.

You married for better or worse,what can't you work out?

How many months of marriage counseling have you went though.

Next you are married, so you don't have an internet thing with anyone.
If you do divorce, you stay single for at least a year and learn to be happy by yourself first, and you meet and date in real life people before you fall in love.