I have been with my partner for 15 years, married for 12 and have 2 children. Our relationship has deteriorated recently, as the children grow I have decided to make my way back into the world and start to build a life which does not revolve solely around family life, get a job etc. My partner has reacted to this badly and recently filmed me showering without my knowledge, something we had talked about and I had made feelings clear that I wasn't into that sort of thing. Following that I found explicit violent porn on his computer and now feel like I hardly know this person. We are continuously going over these 2 issues and it is destroying our relationship. The trust is gone. I cannot get past what has been done and don't know if I should leave or stay and try and work it out for the sake of the children. I have also recently become friends with a man who has a romantic interest and is clouding my judgement even though I know nothing will ever happen between us. I have tried counselling but this has not helped. I have spent many years of our relationship doing most of the housework/raising the kids etc with little input from my partner. What should I do?
