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  • Oct 26, 2006, 06:48 PM
    tjp21401
    What's the deal with my Ex. Great question I need all your help
    Long story short. I Loved my ex girl friend a lot and still kind of do although I'm finally getting over her and moving on. I'm now longer deprressed about it. We were very serious, close to getting engaged, and I had her initials tattooed. I know it was dumb but felt it is part of the story so I told you. Anyway after a year and a half. We did fight a lot but the fights were about her being insecur that I was cheating on her. I never even kissed another girl the whole relationship so I would get mad at her bringing it up needless to say we had blowouts. April fools day she breaks up with me in a sentence over instant messenger. Haha jokes on me(literally). So OK she bangs this kid, then they start dating and still are. 6 monthes go by. virtually no contact between us. She calls me up out of the blue drunk one night and to tell me that she's not calling because "she wants to get back together, will jump in my bed, or were(her and her boyfriend) fighting". Then she says how great her relationship is with this kid... I tell her I still love her and miss her but its painful to have her in my life under these circumstances. Now she puts up all these lovey dovey pictures of them on Facebook, I mean over the top over the top and goes on and on and on about how happy they are. Ive been told by her girlfriends that he is really possessive of her. I was at the same bar as her one night and when I dated her she was off talking to friends then we would have a drink and whatever, when I saw her she sat at the bar with this kid behind her chair the whole time. What I'm asking is do you think it is possible that someone displays there love for someone else in such an over the top manner that it means there not in love? Im not really sure, I love her and want her back in some way, but I have moved on enough and have enogh self respect that I would never get back together with her but it still leaves me curios you know, anyway I'm really biased so mabye a third party can set me straight. Thanks, this is my first time posting a question so I'm not really sure how it works.
  • Oct 26, 2006, 07:03 PM
    Skell
    I wouldn't take her back.

    You should keep moving forward.

    Why do you want someone who is as insecure as her and was so willing to dump you last time and jump straight into bed with another guy?

    Have more respect for yourself and realise that she isn't worthy of you. Move forward.

    Ask yourself what is so different about her now that would make having a go of it this time and different to the last?

    There has to be a pretty good answer to that question in my book for you to consider going back to her.

    Move forward mate. She is in your past and it sounds to me as though she is best left there!
  • Oct 27, 2006, 12:58 AM
    Krs
    [QUOTE=tjp21401]Long story short. I Loved my ex girl friend a lot and still kind of do although I'm finally getting over her and moving on. I'm now longer deprressed about it. [QUOTE]

    Well here goes, if its true what you say above, then WHY on earth even consider going back to her.

    She sounds mega confused.

    Leave her and move on just how you are doing now. Do you want more heart ache after you said you are no longer depressed and moving on :cool: think about it?
  • Oct 27, 2006, 05:05 AM
    talaniman
    Mind your own business and stay out of her life.
  • Oct 27, 2006, 01:37 PM
    Wildcat21
    Run! She doesn't respect you - you can't trust her.

    "i still love her and miss her but its painful to have her in my life " - bad mistake - all she wanted to hear. Be mysteriosu next be busy. You shouldn't have answered the call.

    You should be over this wench - I get the feeling she walks all over you. AND you'd come running back like a love sick puppy dog! Yuck!
  • Oct 28, 2006, 11:13 AM
    Geoffersonairplane
    Hi,

    It sounds to me like she is really immature... I mean, why call you up and say that to you, it is insensitive and a display of insecurity... She does not sound worthy of you and whilst I have a similar predicament, I can see your situation a bit more clearly...

    She does not respect you, you should Move On! You will find someone better...

    What's more, she tries to make you Jealous by showing affection to her new partner in front of you... This is a mixture of insecurity along with possibly doubt in her own mind about her new lover...

    If you have to continuously show affection in public, I believe it can mean that you are not secure about the relationship...

    I would forget her and move on!!

    Take care whatever you decide..

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