My girlfriend and I were together for the last month of school and had a ldr relationship for the summer(we lived 3 hours away). Everything was going great- we talked and texted all the time,visited each other and she even came to my family vacation. Then she started having a really bad relationship with her parents and moved out. They also didn't want her to have a boyfriend so we agreed to not talk as much so their relationship wouldn't get worse. When we got back to school we tried to make our relationship work but her parents made her become an ra to pay for school and told her she had to get all A's in order to stay at school. Because of her ra duties and her need to do well in school we decided to break up so we could focus on school. We said we still really like each other and we'd like to try again sometime but we don't know when. I don't know how I should act around her now. She is always distant and busy with ra duties and I don't want to annoy her but I miss her.

Just be civil and confident around her.

You don't want to start stalking her like a lost puppy , that'll just turn her off.

Stay cool, calm and collected at all times. No need to be overly friendly, but no need to be rude either.

Just go about your business. If you see her, just be polite and move along. You agreed that you will try again in the future, but she's the one who broke it off cause of her personal reasons. Therefore, she'll find you if she wants to start things up again.

However, I hate to say this, but it seems like she's moving on. Even though she has all these obstacles, if she really cared, she would talk things out with you and try to work it out. The fact that she says she wants to do her own things and be apart from you, it means she stopped trying with you.

Just a thought, but is it possible that you were too needy? And considering her situation, she needs extra space. If you were giving her space and extremely supportive of her situation, I don't see why she would have wanted to break up. Anyway, just a thought. Either way, don't push her to be in a relationship anymore. She knows how you feel, so she will find you if she wants to start things up again.

Just do your own thing.

If a relationship cannot survive the obstacles of life, then its best to just distance yourself and do your own thing, and let her do hers.

It's a huge red flag, when things cannot be worked out, and a break with no terms, or rules, is the same thing as a break up. That's how you treat this situation, as what are you holding on to?? The hope of things working out? That's the responsibility of the partners, and since she has other obligations, don't paint yourself in a corner by pretending your together, but your NOT. This is no way to grow, and bond, but your break is a way to foster distance, and confusion. (as your finding out).

Its either all in against the world, or all out, and stay individually healthy, and independent.

With HER school, and family, between you, I see nothing but problems.

Thanks guys I really hope this helps. To I wish- looking back I wouldn't say I was too needy but I did text her to ask how her day was going and try to find time to hang out. We decided to end things after one night when I wanted to see her and she said she couldn't because she was seeing her oldest friend for only the first time 2 weeks into school at 11 at night. I told her I was willing to come after all her ra duties and school and share time with other friends but she said that wouldn't be fair to me.
Also we have two classes together, a lecture and a small classroom one, and I will be joining the same rotc unit she is in so I can pay for school. I'm not sure what I be like around her. She said the whole "i still want to be your friend" bit but I'm not sure if I should sit near her and act like we used to before we were dating or not. Its painful to be close and still not be with her but avoiding her would also hurt. And it would hurt her as well and above all I don't want to do that.

Well, if she already said the "I still want to be friends" line, it means she's had a change of heart. Sounds like she was letting you down easy by telling you that still have hope. But by giving you that false sense of hope, you become her backup. Now she has no commitment to you. Who knows if she's really that busy, but now she's free to go find other guys. If things don't work out with other guys, she knows that she can always come back to you.

Don't be her safety net. Move on with your life.

For sure do not stalk her or act like you are a sick pupply as a girl I know she will hate that.

Best thing IMO to do is the small amounts of free time she might have simply ask her if she would like to spend some of that time with you and just act normal and have fun with her. Enjoy the time you get to spend with her and also u can focus on your studies too. Try and stay somewhat close with her in that way but don't push yourself no her every minute, school will not last forever and if she is into you then she will probably want to be with you too when she has some free time.

At this point that is all you can really do if she needs to focus on school an Ra duties, so basically u can tell her u understand she is busy and has to focus on school etc. but when she is free and has some extra time tell her you would like to spend some time with her and go from there. Hope that helps

Friendly, and polite, during classes, and by no means sit close to her.

Your on your own now, and even though you shared time with her, and enjoyed it, that's in the past, and she is just another female to you.

That means cutting the strings that attached you in the past, and get your own life, that you enjoy without her.

That friendship stuff only works after you BOTH have moved on. I strongly advise you don't go there, until you have accepted that her feelings have changed, and probably were never as strong as yours anyway.