The Results of No Contact
Threads merged to update.
As most of the posts on here seem to be about the problems, I thought I would post something different. First off, I want to say that I found this site extremely helpful for me in learning the process of moving on from a relationship. Thank you to everyone who posts on here and to those who posted specifically to a query I had. I found it very helpful. Second I would like to echo what is said on here so well by so many others in that though no contact is at times extremely difficult, it is definitely rewarding in the long run. I myself had to fight the urge to contact my ex many times, and found that by going on here and reading some of these tales instead, it helped me stay the course. I also attribute it to finally reaching a point in my life where I recognised that I was tired of inflicting pain on myself, and that there are voices in our head that tell us to do things that are really not in our best interest. So though every fiber was screaming to talk to my ex, I ignored the immediate illusion of satisfaction with the belief that later on I would be happy that I did. And it was true. I refused to look at anything that might tie me back to her, and ignored her when she contacted me with a letter. It's been roughly five months. I found that sometime in the middle of month four I no longer had those same feelings for my ex, and felt pretty good being single. Then, as the tale always seems to be, I found someone new. No telling where that will go, but I'm happy thus far. Life has taught me that there is no such thing as a happy ending, just happy moments, so I do my best to go with that for now and see where it takes me. I'm even at the point where I'm grateful that my ex did what she did to me. And I should add that I would have been happy even had I not met this new person. So in the end, thank you again everyone, I've found this site invaluable. Hope that others find the same.