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About a month ago me and my girl friend broke up... And ever since than she started dating another boy. Well I realized it was stupid and I missed her. So I went to ask her back out and I saw her kissing someone else. And I was texting her and she told me that she is happy with who she is with but she still likes me. Every night we talk on the phone for hours about all the fun we had together when we were together and how I was a good kisser. Than she told me that she never listens to music anymore cause it reminds her of me, and also she has dreams about me. I really like her a lot and I want to get together again is their any tips you guys could give me?

You can't force someone to come back for you first of all. Secondly, she broke up with you, she's dating another guy and she has kissed someone else, on top of that she is telling you all those sweet thing?

I don't know if you realize it, but she is trying to control you and string you along. You want her back? I was exactly in the same position. My ex broke up with me, after she cheated, didn't tell me, stayed with the guy for 1 month without me knowing. During that time she stringed me along, telling me she has feeling, but she is not sure. She needs time and I should give it to her.

I realize now I have been used so that she gets better... but in the end she is the one suffering. Does my story sound familiar? It's almost the same with everybody. She doesn't want you back, she wants you near so that SHE gets better while you suffer behind. Don't believe me? Read all the thread and you'll see a pattern.

What you actually need is time alone and you need to apply No Contact. Read the threads about No Contact and how to get better. Don't do the same mistakes we did.

Is there a way to get her back? NO

Yep, time to go NC for yourself and start working on you. Go to the gym, start up old hobbies that you did before you were together.

You sound VERY young to start. My question is would you want her back if she wasn't dating another guy? Do you think it is more jealousy than anything? I wouldn't want to date a girl who is dating another guy but still has zero respect for boundaries in a relationship... she sounds a bit too "open" for me.

Cut your losses and quit acting like a dog. She is dating someone else, so move on and save your dignity.

May I ask how old you both are please? Who's idea was it to split?

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Originally Posted by jmjoseph

May I ask how old you both are please? Who's idea was it to split?

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I am 15 and it was both of our idea. Ex we said it wasn't working out right for us.

Rejection DOUBLED his interest level in her...

He wants what he know he can't have anymore...

Your young man... you got your whole life ahead of you...

Learn from this situation... and continue living...

Do not let this girl tickle your ego... thats all she is doing...

I agree with SweetGuy, when my ex dumped me my interest level doubled, and I'm more or less in the stage right now of how could she dump ME? I have all of these better qualities than her blah blah... Don't let her string you along. Start ignoring her and work on yourself, and let things play out how they should.

She doesn't want to get back with you, because she is having more fun being with someone else, and just talking old times with you.

Disappear from her life.