How do you get over the guilt, sadness and anger of an ending realationship?

It is always a very hard time in life and you really need to take each day as it come's, try keeping yourself busy doing stuff to help keep your mind fom keep going back over things... It is never easy but taking things step by step each day help heal the pain and anger over time.

Workout!! eat right, be with your friends, family, work hareder at work, new hobbies, religion, TRAVEL!!

Date!!

Like cat said. Workout, run. I found that great.
I travelled.
Basically make it about you for a while. Be with friends, family. Cry if you must. Take time to get over it.

Don't get into another relationship.

Don't contact the ex. You must completely cut off all communication. This is essential.

Other than that you just have to ride the ups and downs but you will come out the other end a much better person if you deal with it correctly. And that is by doing the above!

The anger and sadness is part of the grieving process and it meanders like a mountain river as it fades. You can help that process out by taking the suggestions the others made here for it. Except for one tiny part, where I disagree with WC, don't date for a while. Take a break from that.

The guilt may be legit and that's the lesson calling you to learn it. When you are ready, think back about what all happened. Try to identify your part in it. Change what you need to about you. I don't know what is it about humans but during the grieving process, making change is easier than it usually is -- so take advantage of that.

And also you should take it (please read your screen name now)

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Originally Posted by daybyday

How do you get over the guilt, sadness and anger of an ending realationship?

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daybyday, you heart ache will start to fade away day by day ;)

Keep yourself busy, meet up with friends, think less of it and do more of something different ;)

As you can see if you take it like your name, and listen to the excellent advice given, you'll feel much better soon. There will be pain, but you will learn that you can deal with it as you grow and heal. Good Luck

Most times good things come out of something different ;)

Easier said than done-trust me I know. Just really think about the reason it ended & then let it go. You save what you have to offer a relationship for someone who wants and deserves it. Keep in mind everything happens for a reason & you're not alone.

I read 2 books, one was called the Breakup Buddy I think. It was actually quite funny, but dealt with the things you need to deal with. Again, the key is to keep busy, do a part time course at college, look after some pets, volunteer to help with a charity, go to the gym, stuff like that. I am learning to drive and doing a college course on a Wednesday after work, it helps. I also went for a spa day with a massage and stuff, that was good : )

Don't just sit in on your own, go to the cinema with your friends, go for a drink. It does help, believe me. : )

It's hard to answer your question without more details. Did you break up or did he? Why did the breakup occur, regardless of who did it? A lot of times we tend to harbor expectations in a relationship that our partner doesn't share so we are hurt, angry and confused when they don't come to fruition. Often, being too needy, possessive or clingy tends to sabotage relationships in the early stages. You've got to love yourself first and foremost, before you can love someone else or expect them to love you. Building your life around your love interest is never a good thing, especially in the early stages. As others on this thread will tell you, your significant other is only a part of your life, not your life. Keeping things in the proper perspective will go a long way towards keeping you from getting hurt, angry and resentful when it comes to failed relationships and, hopefully, start leading to successful relationships.