Hi,

I met this guy called Luke through some friends and liked him almost immediately, I was never interested though, we became friends and about 2 years later he asked me out. We went out for 9 months generally good but not perfect and then he got send to Hong Kong with work, I decided I want to be friends because he was going to be there for awhile.

He really struggled in Hong Kong and was quite lonely and in reality our friendship involved phoning each other all the time and supporting each other as much as possible, after awhile though it became abit much and felt like this great guy I had know was just needy all the time even though we still had great times along the way. After 8 months of not seeing each other I was due to fly out to see him and I met someone else called Jack who was the complete opposite of Luke and I found myself attracted to someone else for the 1st time in years. Nothing ever happened between me and Jack it just changed something in me where I didn't know if I wanted to do this anymore.

I went to Hong Kong it was a bit weird to see luke but I remembered why I had liked him and we had fun together though it wasn't the same as it had been before. Shortly after that he booked a flight home 3 months later sensing the distance between us and realising 9 months had been along time. When he came back we still had some fun but it just felt more brother and sister between use than boyfriend and girlfriend and shortly after he went back I broke it off with him.

I saw him in the summer and christmas of that year and he still wanted to be with me and I said no. He then sent me an email 6 months later saying he still loved me and I still said no and that I couldn't handle chatting regularly again because it was to emotional.

This summer I saw him again and he is coming back for good shortly, thing is he started up this relationship with this other girl I know and it just cut me to pieces I realised that I had buried a lot of stuff where I just hadn't seen him for so long.

I didn't say anything at the time because I didn't want to jump in and act rashly to regret it later. I let myself stop spinning and have thought about it but it has been a month now and despite feeling calm I still feel like I want another chance with him when he is actually here and not in another country but I don't want to wreck his life now he has met someone else he likes after trying to be with me.

Thing is I don't want to jump full throttle into another relationship with him in case it is to intense but I really feel like I love and want to marry him and would like to just start again afresh without all the long distance nonsense and pressure.

Thing is I just don't know what the wise thing to do next is..

I take it he s in another relationship? In which case you should do nothing.

Yeah, I don't know for sure they are in a relationship as he has only know her two weeks and then gone back abroad but it would seem like they are pursuing something.

Perhaps this new girl is his 'jack'

It must have been difficult for him to want you for so long and things just not working out...

He has met someone... give them a chance.. give him a chance to be happy with someone and let the past go.
As hard as it is to accept he has started to move on with his life.
You should too.