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Im a young woman who has never been in a satisfying relationship in terms of love and happiness. I attract all the wrong guys and because of this, I get desperate and go for any guy who is interested in me. Most of the time they just want sex. Why can't I find love
My moto is :-
When you search for love you will hardly find it, But if you don't look for love, it will then appear right in front of you ;)
The bad news is its likely something you are doing--its bad only because we never enjoy learning that we are making a mistake but hey it happens, we are human.
The good news is its likely something you are doing--LOL its actually very good news since it means you can do something about it. Yipee! And it sounds like you are interested in that part so good for you too.
Without much detail in your post, I could only guess about specifics. But people do give off very subtle vibes that are able to influence such things, Also where they hang out, how they present themselves, what they think of themselves -- all this factors in.
Sometimes we get a chip on our shoulders too, a "thang" I call it and it will literally filter out the good stuff and only let in the bad, thereby making us gloat about being so right even if it means we are unhappy, as crazy as that sounds.
Look yourself over a bit and see if you can find anything you are doing that just might resemble any of this. If you do, then get to work making a mini make over on you!
Acting out of desperation often leads to a bad situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by POSHA
A good starting point would be to try and determine why you "get desperate" for a guy.
Perhaps you are holding on to some belief that compells you to act desperately, or maybe you just don't want to be alone.
People can be very complex in their "internal rules" about what is or is not "okay" for them. You might really believe that "if I am not married by age X, it's over for me" - and do "whatever it takes" to get married. You might believe that as long as you allow a guy to use you (say for sex), you won't have to be alone - so you tolerate a bad relationship (or bad sex!) just to not be alone. Both of these are examples of how holding on to some arbitrary belief - real or imagined - can make you feel like you are "desperate".
I would bet that you have no reason to be desperate - You've probably just settled for whatever was the fastest or flashiest offer that came along for you recently.
Just stop looking and do your own thing and he will come to you. I don't think your doing anything wrong maybe they are just too immature to be a good man and don't try too hard. Maybe when you do find the rite guy, slow down, put sex on the back burner, and see if he sticks around anyway.
I agree w/KRS. It seems like once your not looking, it will come looking for you. I don't know how old u are, but evendently young enough to give it some time. Good Luck!Quote:
Originally Posted by POSHA
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