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  • Aug 28, 2009, 04:51 PM
    crisluvsu731
    Big or small?
    Why don't most guys like girls with meat on them? So many guys like the girls with no boobs, no butt, and no personality? But they have no meat. How is that sexy? What is wrong with girls who have curves? Just wondering, any input would be great!
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:12 PM
    jmjoseph
    I love curves! No Olive Oyl for me!
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:29 PM
    crisluvsu731

    I don't get it, olive oyl?
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:32 PM
    crisluvsu731
    Oh, OK. I get it. So, how much meat is too much meat for you?
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:37 PM
    artlady

    I live in a predominately African American neighborhood and believe me ,the black men I know love big curvy women with big butts especially!
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:44 PM
    jmjoseph
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crisluvsu731 View Post
    i dont get it, olive oyl?

    Olive Oyl is Popeye's girlfriend. She's skinny as a pencil. Google her.

    I love women ( only one now) with some meat on their bones.
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:44 PM
    none12345

    Ima guy and I like a girl for her personality. It is what is inside that matters the most but to be honest I wouldn't mind having a girl with no meat as long as she is not overly skinny. Its because we would match better since I'm not very meaty myself. Just my thoughts and opinions. Hope it was an input.
  • Aug 28, 2009, 05:50 PM
    none12345

    Another thing is some guys don't like girls that are more meaty than them because it has something to do with being dominant as a guy. I THINK...
  • Aug 29, 2009, 08:08 AM
    chuff

    If I had to choose between a 75 skelaton and a 300 lb woman who will finish the meal I bought her, then I'm going with the 300 lbs girls.

    Did you have one bad experience and are basing this off that by chance? I can only speak for me, but I've dated the all ranges of girls from looks to body size and personally I actually find dating super hot girls to be not worth my time. I find them to be self centered, large ego's, and have a sense of entitlement that you don't find with "normal" girls, which ironically makes the normal girls more attractive.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 09:16 AM
    talaniman

    I like 'em all! A good woman is just a good woman, no matter the package she comes wrapped in.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 09:32 AM
    s_cianci
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jmjoseph View Post
    I love curves! No Olive Oyl for me!

    Same here!
  • Aug 29, 2009, 10:02 AM
    nikosmom

    I'm a curvy woman. Thick. Voluptuous. Whatever you want to call it. But I work what I have. Confidence is key. I dress in a way that is alluring yet compliments my features. Do I look nice - hell yeah. I'm not stuck up but I am confident. Not because of the way I look but more so because I know I have something to offer a man. In fact, many great things.

    Read any of my posts. I'm smart. I'm kind. Have a great sense of humor. I've made many friends here because of my brain not because of my boobage.

    Quick insight: I have a coworker who is rail thin; so thin that you can see her hip bones. Me- well I've been called "Curvalicious". (Yes, really. A guy gave me that name.) But we have a lot of people come in our office daily and she always wonders why they drool over me. I always say, "I dunno, I think they like my personality."

    So thin, thick, or anything in between- most men prefer the "complete package" regardless of the frame.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 10:51 AM
    paxe

    I prefer thin women and I know most guy do. It's easier to change the way you look than to change how men like women :D. Looks are important but they are not everything.

    A lot of times I turn down gorgeous women because I haven't made a connection with, even down they are perfect physically. Sometimes I get connected with less beautiful women but who have great character. Charm and character are extremely important for me, and I would say most guys.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 11:02 AM
    Jake2008
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by crisluvsu731 View Post
    Why don't most guys like girls with meat on them? So many guys like the girls with no boobs, no butt, and no personality? but they have no meat. How is that sexy? What is wrong with girls who have curves? Just wondering, any input would be great!!

    I don't think it is any different than my single female friends, who all have a preference for characteristics, as shallow and limiting as that may be.

    One will only date 5'10" and shorter, skinny, preferably long hair, biker/rock star type.

    Another only blonde, athletic, muscle bound, nothing between the ears sort of guy.

    Another one wants a suit and tie type of guy, clean cut, minimum education standards, clean shaven with no mortgage and no child support payments.

    Everybody has a preference, or attraction to a certain type of person, that they feel compatible with, even if its only for one night. Some differentiate a one night stand girl, to a girl they'd bring home to meet mom.

    I don't think they all prefer model types, any more than model types prefer a certain type of guy. I guess discrimination goes both ways.

    To each his own.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 11:17 AM
    artlady

    I have seen very attractive people who turn heads when they walk into a room and then when they open their mouth,their allure goes right out the window. That's all they have.

    Their personalities don't match the outer beauty.Inside they are superficial.

    I have also seen reasonably attractive people who smile and are genuine and people flock to them because they are real ! Those are the people that truly connect with others.

    Think about how many beautiful men and women get dumped or cheated on by someone less physically attractive.

    That speaks for itself.

    In the long haul,looks alone wears pretty thin.
  • Aug 29, 2009, 11:29 AM
    Jake2008
    ArtLady, that is so funny. I can relate to that person who looks so handsome/gorgeous, then they open their mouths and prove that they have nothing between the ears but fluff. Lol

    It's interesting that people limit themselves to certain characteristics. I've tried really, really hard with a few of my friends to open up a few possibilities- just simple ones like no hair instead of a comb-over lol, and even if the guy has no front teeth, drools, and eats with his hands, they still stick to that 'vision'.

    I've met some of the good lookers too, and yes, they are quite yummy, but, keeping conversations at a grade three level gets a little boring. "Duh......did uh...you....uh.....um........uhhhhhhhhh, d'uh........see the red car go by fast?"...

    Lol I'd better stop right here! :D
  • Aug 29, 2009, 11:46 AM
    artlady
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jake2008 View Post
    ArtLady, that is so funny. I can relate to that person who looks so handsome/gorgeous, then they open their mouths and prove that they have nothing between the ears but fluff. lol

    It's interesting that people limit themselves to certain characteristics. I've tried really, really hard with a few of my friends to open up a few possibilities- just simple ones like no hair instead of a comb-over lol, and even if the guy has no front teeth, drools, and eats with his hands, they still stick to that 'vision'.

    I've met some of the good lookers too, and yes, they are quite yummy, but, keeping conversations at a grade three level gets a little boring. "Duh......did uh...you....uh.....um........uhhhhhhhhh, d'uh........see the red car go by fast?"....

    lol I'd better stop right here! :D

    Keep at those girls Jake.I have never had a type.I know what I like in the way of looks.
    I used to have this vision of a guy who looked like James Taylor with long dark hair... until I fell in love with a bald fat man ! True :p
  • Aug 29, 2009, 11:59 AM
    Alty

    Just remember one thing. Looks fade, personality lasts forever.

    I'm average. I'm not super skinny, I'm not chunky. I'm not gorgeous, I'm not ugly. I know that if I walk into a room full of people that I'm not going to be the prettiest girl there. I do however know that I'll walk into that room and most of the people there will gravitate towards me. No, that's not conceit, it's confidence.

    I know who I am, I'm comfortable in my own skin, I'm smart, I'm funny and I'm confident. It's taken a long time to become who I am, and the first step was accepting myself and all my flaws.

    You have to love who you are, walk into a room and know that you're well worth the time.

    Real men don't judge a book by it's cover, they open the pages and read. :)
  • Aug 29, 2009, 12:06 PM
    mudweiser

    Hi I'm not rail thin.. but I do wear a size 4. I'm not dumb. I have a lot to say. I'm a good friend to have. I think I'm funny... my looks well it doesn't really matter.

    If you have this stinky attitude guys are going to smell it, black, white, yellow or brown-- and they won't stick around for so long.

    So my suggestion to you is to stay positive. If you have some sort of jealousy towards thinner people then get healthy yourself. Realize I said healthy- not go on a crash diet and starve yourself. Get some exercise, eat right and not only will you get thinner but you'll be healthier.

    I'd also like to say that it depends what "type" of guy your going for. Some guys are shallow and some go for personality. If you keep going for guys whom have dated only thin dummy girls then chances are you won't be his next girlfriend.

    Besides, if you want a boyfriend you got to love yourself first.

    If you keep busy with your own life:
    -socialize
    -volunteer
    -get a job/ go to school
    -read some self help books on self improvement
    -learn a new language
    -take a cooking class

    Soon enough someone will notice you!

    It's much better to be found than the be the one doing the finding.

    Anyway, that's just my opinion.

    Sarah
  • Aug 29, 2009, 01:07 PM
    jmjoseph
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    I prefer thin women and I know most guy do. It's easier to change the way you look than to change how men like women :D. Looks are important but they are not everything.

    A lot of times I turn down gorgeous women because I haven't made a connection with, even down they are perfect physically. Sometimes I get connected with less beautiful women but who have great character. Charm and character are extremely important for me, and I would say most guys.

    More guys nowadays like women with a nice body, but not THIN. Thin women don't have nice bottoms.

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