I was wondering if anyone could offer me advise. My husband never seems to want sex with me anymore. He would happily go months without even thinking about wanting to have sex. I have tried talking to him to see if I am doing or not doing something to make him not want sex. He says that I am not doing anything wrong. I have also asked if there is something that I can do to help get him into the mood and he seems to think nothing will get him in the mood. I know he loves me but I am really struggling. I have a very high sex drive and would be happy to have sex every day. I have compromised and do not ask all the time but I feel like it is always me that has to try and sort everything out. What's wrong? What can I do to help things?

It's time for him to go to a doctor, see if there's something medical going on.

Be spontaneuos, tease him work him up. Look up new things to try and surprise him. Don't ask all the time. That might work him uup.

How old are you both and how long have you been married?

I think that the doctor's appointment is the thing that you need to do first. Once the doctor has made an assessment of the situation, then you can decide what to do.

If he loves you and cares about the relationship, then it is incumbent on him to try and find out why his libido has disappeared. He needs to work with you on this one as it's not fair for one partner to assume that the other does not have any sexual needs - whether they be male or female.

I would suggest that if there is nothing physically amiss, that it would be of benefit to go to counseling. This may well be confronting for your husband, but in the end you both need to make a choice about what you are prepared to do to save the marriage.

My husband never want to have sex and when we do he can't ejaculate. I know he loves me and he says its not me, but I feel like it is. He has gone to the doctors and the doctor says there's nothing wrong cause he can get hard. I think he doesn't ever want to have sex because he can't . I go crazy and we have talked about it a lot. He is 50 and Im 45 and I am so in love with him. Im going crazy and find myself getting so angry about it.

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Originally Posted by kwkman

My husband never want to have sex and when we do he can't ejaculate. I know he loves me and he says its not me, but I feel like it is. He has gone to the doctors and the doctor says theres nothing wrong cause he can get hard. I think he doesnt ever want to have sex because he can't . I go crazy and we have talked about it alot. He is 50 and Im 45 and I am so inlove with him. Im going crazy and find myself getting so angry about it.

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