Hi,I have a problem,I let my daughter move in a couple of months ago and she has a 1yr old and is having another baby in Feb,Anyhow,I had to move my son's bed into the living room and give her and the baby his upstairs bedroom.Now her boyfriend is threating that he is going to take the baby and tell that my son is sleeping in the living room.He is unemployed also as she,so what am I do do? I don't feel right about telling her to move out,she has no where to go.And is it OK for my son to be sleeping where he is.He is 13. I never wanted all this misery,I was being hospitable for the baby's welfare.:confused:

You hear threats like this all the time. What is it that he really wants... your daughter to move in with him?

Let him threaten. Tell him to take it to court. What I see is a family working together to make everything work. And since there is no law saying where someone has to sleep...

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Originally Posted by miserable09

Hi,I have a problem,I let my daughter move in a couple of months ago and she has a 1yr old and is having another baby in Feb,Anyhow,I had to move my son's bed into the living room and give her and the baby his upstairs bedroom.Now her boyfriend is threating that he is going to take the baby and tell that my son is sleeping in the living room.He is unemployed also as she,so what am I do do? I don't feel right about telling her to move out,she has no where to go.And is it ok for my son to be sleeping where he is.He is 13. I never wanted all this misery,I was being hospitable for the baby's welfare.:confused:

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Let him try. Pray that he does. You really want to get this guy in a courtroom. And if any questions are asked about the current situation you can respond in the motherly way. If this idiot would get a job and pay child support like he is suppose to do then my daughter wouldn't be in this situation but Im doing the best I can to keep things together.

Watch how fast he runs from the judge. See its because of what he IS doing that's causing this to occur. Your doing the best you can. Is there any way for your son to get more privacy then by being in the living room ? Or can you hang curtens for him across the room ? That would go a long way to helping him cope in this situation.

I agree with Steve, wish you lots of luck! Tell him see you in court, look out for your family...

I would go things a step further. I would have your daughter file immediately for child support. Even though you might not get anything if he's unemployed, there will still be a support order on record when he does get a job.

By the way what are the ages here? How old is your daughter and the boyfriend? We are assuming the boyfriend is the father.

He will not get custody. Even if his father is the judge. And your son can sleep in a tree house if he wants to. I did sometimes when I was his age. Is he neglected? Abused? Then go kiss your family , and get a good night's sleep. Guys like the boyfriend make me want to go cut a switch. That's probably his problem. Not enough spankings. I hope this ends soon for you. Like you really want this stress in your life right now.

Thank You all for the answers,Yes,I did get legal advice and the boyfriend has no legitimate right,( he already is paying support for another kid not my daughters)if we go to court he will suffer the consequences of his stupidity.
I have all the rights of what I'm doing,I was also advised that I could if he does bring it to court that I can counter file against him for threats on me.Also,I was advised to tell my daughter that if it continues she has only 3 months to live in my household.So needless to say,he has shut his mouth.. lol.