Relationship worries and need a Christian point of view
This should probably go in the Relationships section, but I really need some Christian points of view.
Me and my boyfriend have been together about a year. We are really happy together, with great communication and trust and admiration and respect for each other. We are long distance right now, so we talk on the phone every day and get to see each other about every 3 weeks.
We both are Christians. I was raised non-denominational and have a pretty strong Christian background. My boyfriend was raised Catholic and it was very shoved down his throat (he even went to a Catholic elementary school) and now he is still a Christian, believes in God and Jesus as his savior, but is very private with his beliefs.
We've never really been as spiritually connected as we are mentally and emotionally, and lately I've been experiencing really terrible anxiety and it's drawn me much closer to God. I've been praying, reading my Bible, and have gotten involved in a Christian book study.
I really really want to grow spiritually with my boyfriend, and I've discussed it with him, and so we've started praying with each other every night. We're going to go to church together when I go visit him in 2 weeks. And we also discussed being abstinent until we get married, we are going to try and commit to it, because I really am sure that this is the man I want to marry, and I know I want to please God and do what is best for our relationship. He is 100% open to the idea of waiting till marriage from this point on, but he is doing it because I want it, not necessarily because he thinks sex before marriage is wrong.
Do you guys think that as we continue to try and grow spiritually, and as we journey down this path together, that it is OK to marry someone who isn't on the same page spiritually as you? I mean, I might be a little further down the path in seeking God and knowing Him than my boyfriend is. Do you think, if he is open to it and seeks God as well, that it is OK for us to get married?
I guess I've had this idea pounded into my head that the man MUST be the spiritual leader and be farther down the path to God than the wife. And my boyfriend is an AMAZING man, my best friend, and a huge source of happiness in my life. I am focusing on making God the strength and foundation of my life, and growing spiritually with my boyfriend.
Before I started to get closer to God, I was 100% ready to marry my boyfriend. Now I'm worried that because we might be at different places spiritually it means I shouldn't want to be with him.
I guess I could just use some advice/insights on this whole issue. :confused: