I started dating this guy without any intentions of a relationship. The first couple of dates were horrible and akward but he was sweet about everything and kept asking me out. He obviously liked me and he said it constantly. I liked the kind of attention he gave me. After awhile he asked if I would be his girlfriend. I still had no feelings for him just a friendship, so I told him the truth that I wasent attracted to him. I broke his heart. After a couple of days I realized I missed him. So I wanted to see how he was. He already had another girlfriend and for some reason that made me mad. I realized that moment that I did have feelings for him.. after awhile I broke down and admitted it and became his girlfriend. The realationship was doing OK until the fact that I had never kissed anyone before came up. He was my first kiss. Then he was my first everything. I am 19. Ok so everything was OK. Until I just realized that he wanted more then a right now thing he was planning on being with me forever. I just started being weird and told him I needed a break which he thought to break up. A few days later I find out we are in fact broken up. He won't call me he said he wanted to see me but as I was talking to him I couldn't stop crying . I don't know maybe I did ruin my life or the great life I had with him. I know we are still young but what if he was the one? What do I do? What if he already has another girlfriend? Im just confused Help!

You are right you are young. Dear what is meant for you is meant for you. Love is not love till you give it away. It is yours if it comes back. Yes you messed up by getting weird when you could just be honest and tell him you are too young or want to wait. Another thing you stated he was your first everything of course you will be attached. Now that you are not with him try to look at what you didn't like about him and be honest if you was acting weird or notice something you couldn't put your hands on. Sometimes that is a warning that we over look. God bless

Sorry, but I don't think he was THE ONE. (God, I'm so sick of that expression!)

Let's try and get a good hard dose of reality here. He wanted you, you didn't want him. You kept pushing him away but took him back when you realised someone else wanted him. You then freaked out when he wanted to get serious. Now, he's sick of it and you, and I don't blame him.

It's clear that you're not ready for a relationship because you don't know how to behave with consideration and sensitivity. The poor guy is probably sick and tired of you changing how you feel about him. Let's face it, when you have him you don't want him and when you don't have him you do want him. It's all about you.

At 19 it's highly unlikely that you'd be together forever anyway and the way you were behaving, it's also highly unlikely that you'd have a 'great life'.

Give the poor guy a break and leave him alone. He deserves another girlfriend that will treat him better. You've got a bit of growing up to do before you can contribute to a healthy relationship.

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Originally Posted by Gemini54

Sorry, but I don't think he was THE ONE. (God, I'm so sick of that expression!)

Let's try and get a good hard dose of reality here. He wanted you, you didn't want him. You kept pushing him away but took him back when you realised someone else wanted him. You then freaked out when he wanted to get serious. Now, he's sick of it and you, and I don't blame him.

It's clear that you're not ready for a relationship because you don't know how to behave with consideration and sensitivity. The poor guy is probably sick and tired of you changing how you feel about him. Let's face it, when you have him you don't want him and when you don't have him you do want him. It's all about you.

At 19 it's highly unlikely that you'd be together forever anyway and the way you were behaving, it's also highly unlikely that you'd have a 'great life'.

Give the poor guy a break and leave him alone. He deserves another girlfriend that will treat him better. You've got a bit of growing up to do before you can contribute to a healthy relationship.

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I agree.. I acted immature. He deserves someone better. Thank you for being blunt. We need more people like you in the world.

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My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. We love each other very much. Tomarrow is his birthday and I was wondering if I give him the present I had bought him would it be a bad idea? I don't want him to think I forgot about his birthday or think that since we are not together he dosen't matter to me anymore. But I also don't want him to think I'm trying to get back together. I just don't want to seem heartless.

If you broke up with him a gift might not be such a good idea. If he didn't want to break up, he is probably still in the break up shock, a week is very recent, and he will most likely think that you would like to get back together. In my opinion, I think that just a call, email or even text, would be a better idea, you won't seem heartless. May I ask.. Why did you break up if you love each other very much?

Oh heck NO!! Leave the guy alone, to grieve and heal, as you should try to do.